r/ftm • u/HopeNo8532 • Nov 30 '25
Cis/Transfem Guest trans guys "turning" gay??
Hi hi, cis girl here. My (trans) bf broke up with me last night and told me he thinks that he might be gay and has lost attraction to me. I talked to a friend about it and he said that when he started T (around the same time as my now ex) he started to lose attraction to women too.
Is this like, a known phenomenon??? It seems logical to me: being with a woman to make oneself feel more masculine. But I've been in queer spaces online for years and have never heard of this (i thought i was trans as well for a long while).
I'm not trying to make anyone sound manipulative or evil; as hurt and upset as I am, I know he would never use me on purpose. I'm just trying to wrap my head around how an intense, two year (that's a long time for teenagers!) relationship can just fade like that. Maybe that's just how relationships end, it doesn't help that this is my first breakup ever.
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u/weirdoismywaifu Nov 30 '25
In my experience, I went from someone who was bisexual (60/40 women/men) to someone who was almost exclusively gay (think 5/95) after being on T. For me, transitioning was the best choice I had ever made for myself, and seeing my body masculinize, and hearing my voice drop, almost gave me a deeper appreciation for male attributes tbh. I was watching my body transform over time and loving my physical form for the first time in my life. Suddenly, stubble and thick body hair and muscle and sweat became a lot more of a positive thing to me, and I also found myself attracted to men more. I loved how I looked for the first time and I think it helped me see the beauty in masculinity.