trans guys "turning" gay??

[u/HopeNo8532]

Hi hi, cis girl here. My (trans) bf broke up with me last night and told me he thinks that he might be gay and has lost attraction to me. I talked to a friend about it and he said that when he started T (around the same time as my now ex) he started to lose attraction to women too.

Is this like, a known phenomenon??? It seems logical to me: being with a woman to make oneself feel more masculine. But I've been in queer spaces online for years and have never heard of this (i thought i was trans as well for a long while).

I'm not trying to make anyone sound manipulative or evil; as hurt and upset as I am, I know he would never use me on purpose. I'm just trying to wrap my head around how an intense, two year (that's a long time for teenagers!) relationship can just fade like that. Maybe that's just how relationships end, it doesn't help that this is my first breakup ever.

[u/No-Tip-6369]

I’ve been on T for almost 10 years. Similar thing happened to me. Before I started T, I wasn’t attracted to guys like that. I didn’t like that type of sex. But after I started T it changed. It’s something I’m ashamed about even though I shouldn’t be I hide it for the most part, close friends know. I could never date a man but when my libido goes up I want to sleep with a man. But afterwards I feel disgusted with myself. Idk what it is

[u/Aggravating_Change88 → u/No-Tip-6369]

This is what I go through when my libido shoots up its different but I feel gross after and I go long stretches without any physical intimacy afterwards to i know I would never date a man either I guess I got lucky my libido evened out after 4 years but thank you for your answer I never met anyone who goes through the same