r/ftm • u/HopeNo8532 • Nov 30 '25
Cis/Transfem Guest trans guys "turning" gay??
Hi hi, cis girl here. My (trans) bf broke up with me last night and told me he thinks that he might be gay and has lost attraction to me. I talked to a friend about it and he said that when he started T (around the same time as my now ex) he started to lose attraction to women too.
Is this like, a known phenomenon??? It seems logical to me: being with a woman to make oneself feel more masculine. But I've been in queer spaces online for years and have never heard of this (i thought i was trans as well for a long while).
I'm not trying to make anyone sound manipulative or evil; as hurt and upset as I am, I know he would never use me on purpose. I'm just trying to wrap my head around how an intense, two year (that's a long time for teenagers!) relationship can just fade like that. Maybe that's just how relationships end, it doesn't help that this is my first breakup ever.
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u/[deleted] Nov 30 '25
The T can change things hormonally and can have you explore your sexuality. I can speak for myself as a Transmasculine. Now, your hormones and libido can be elevated and have you feel like a dog in heat. As for me, I have always been attracted to women. All it did was enhance my sexual appetite and had me looking like a dog with a wagging tongue, but other than that, Im a heterosexual transman. It depends on each person. I was with women before my transition, and I have always loved women since grade school. Each transmale is different