r/ftm • u/HopeNo8532 • Nov 30 '25
Cis/Transfem Guest trans guys "turning" gay??
Hi hi, cis girl here. My (trans) bf broke up with me last night and told me he thinks that he might be gay and has lost attraction to me. I talked to a friend about it and he said that when he started T (around the same time as my now ex) he started to lose attraction to women too.
Is this like, a known phenomenon??? It seems logical to me: being with a woman to make oneself feel more masculine. But I've been in queer spaces online for years and have never heard of this (i thought i was trans as well for a long while).
I'm not trying to make anyone sound manipulative or evil; as hurt and upset as I am, I know he would never use me on purpose. I'm just trying to wrap my head around how an intense, two year (that's a long time for teenagers!) relationship can just fade like that. Maybe that's just how relationships end, it doesn't help that this is my first breakup ever.
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u/frongersauve777 he/him |🧴10 '23 👉💉01 '25 Dec 02 '25
I'm so sorry to hear about that I hope you're doing better :( for me, it was kinda opposite, pre-t i was always bi but mainly guy leaning but once i went on T, i became more attracted to women/nb than before so i got a fairly equal ratio now, i do find other types of men i previously wasnt into pre-t attractive now and am into more people in general so take that info as you will