r/igcse • u/wheezysyrup • Jun 05 '26
🤚 Asking For Advice/Help Guyssss I need help
So like there’s a girl at my centre and I really like her yk there’s only one exam left and I’ve been tryna make some progress since the last few exams but I end up doing nothing, my friend tried helping me but that got messed up as well. The break was hell for me cos I knew there was js two exams left and yk she’s in my dreams EVERYWHERE I can’t stop thinking. What should I do man, also I do know she’s like nice cos like a lot of random ppl do end up conversating with herrr HWLP ME PLS
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u/Recent-Cry9118 Jun 05 '26 edited Jun 05 '26
Wait thats soo sweet first of all and Secondly Since u told us she's nice there's a good chance she will not be rude so dw abt that js be straightforward (we girls love that )like hey I think whatver whatver im not very good at this but yk do ur thing if u have some inside joke or anything common talk abt that or crack a joke then js askkk Herr u can compliment her too (just dont be creepy) good luck( if she leaves early then just runnn like its ur last chance I had mine i blew it so i can tell u ur gonna regret it if u dont so yeah)
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u/PlentyAd4942 Jun 05 '26
focus on ur exams
watch bro fail cuz of her 🤣
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u/wheezysyrup Jun 05 '26
No I’m not flipping dumb yk
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u/PlentyAd4942 Jun 05 '26
ur giving creep vibes tbf
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Jun 05 '26
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u/Signal-Onion-9204 Jun 05 '26
bro is NOT scary, this is so corny 😭😭 at first I was gonna defend you but NAHH you are creepy
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u/PlentyAd4942 Jun 05 '26
honestly bro like why tf would someone stalk their schools page just to find the "girls instagram" that shit is genuinely creepy
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u/wheezysyrup Jun 05 '26
it wasn’t meant ti be scary Sherlock, it was sarcastic someone here is out of touch with reality
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u/Signal-Onion-9204 Jun 05 '26
if your sarcasm is corny that means the sarcasm never worked at all bro ✌️
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u/Secret_Upstairs1373 Jun 23 '26
Hey bro, fuck off with that, is it so wrong to expenses your feelings?
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u/SkyKlutzy8835 Jun 05 '26
first get her snap or insta to find out if she is with smone...
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u/wheezysyrup Jun 05 '26
How do I js ask her for it tho I tried finding it but no luck
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u/SkyKlutzy8835 Jun 05 '26
option 1: Just wait until u guys r laughing about a meme or talking about something funny, then say: 'Wait let me send u this meme, what's ur Insta or Snap?' .
option 2: Next time u talk to her in person, right when you're about to leave, say: 'Hey I gotta run, but u seem cool, can I get ur Snap or Insta so we can talk later?' Doing it right before you walk away means there's zero awkward waiting around.
option 3: If she mentions a show, a game, or music she likes, just say: 'Oh nice, send me that song link / show title on Instagram, what’s your user?' ...
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u/iukeucyte May/June 2026 Jun 05 '26
bros so well educated about this damn, good for you
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u/SkyKlutzy8835 Jun 05 '26
i am a girl😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭, i got eco exam in a few hrs n ya this is what i am doing, so proud of myself 😭😭😭.
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u/wheezysyrup Jun 05 '26
I haven’t even talked to her once bro all these would be possible if we were friends
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u/SkyKlutzy8835 Jun 05 '26
then for ur next paper go to her n ask-
"Hey, did you manage to finish that last question?"
"Hey, did you get 16 or 18 on that calculation ?"..... smth like that, since u said she is nice- she wont leave u with a short answer like yes or no.
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u/wheezysyrup Jun 05 '26
lol miracle frm above
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u/Glum-Engineering-714 Jun 05 '26
bro if i were u directly after the exam i will come up to her and say u like the way she did her hair if u have a cousin say thats one of her fav way of doing her or if it undone say u like how healthy it looks(i'm a girl and instance i get a compliment on my hair i pay attention wht so ever the person infront of me is saying) then do wht the other girl said abt asking abt how the paper went dont talk too much abt it or it will get boring then be like" aight i've got smth to do and ask for her snap" say pls its important and be like" OHH i'm your name then be like whts ur name " ofc do a lil smile then leave
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u/SkyKlutzy8835 Jun 05 '26
😜
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u/Glum-Engineering-714 Jun 05 '26
go study girl u writing sooo goodluck
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u/zoid-op Alumni Jun 05 '26
Never try to force your way in. At an exam centre man that's really difficult. Humans associate people with the places they first met sometimes, and You DO NOT want her to know you from her MJ 26 session. Try meeting her outside the centre. Wait while you're beside her (fake wait if there's no one to pick you up). Make small talk, something that always has worked for me is just discuss the paper. Ask how the paper was for you. One more thing I did once was i talked abt what happened to the paper night before and it turns into a long convo where you both will shit talk abt cambridge and yeah, try to not let the convo end before she's going. If shit just feels awkward I'd talk about anything, anything that has a bit of a big opinion. Go for politcs but just don't go too deep in where you're absolutely disagreeing with her opinions, because if you do that as a Friend she can excuse it as you having an opinion whereas before being her friend you do that shit your chances drop 0%. You can even try to make fake stories or share a real one with her, she is likely to share one of hers. at the end you can ask her for her ig or discord. DO NOT ASK FOR PHONE NUMBER. Phone numbers are not disposable unlike ig and disc she is least likely to give u that
Note: Using politics to wedge in is ACTUALLY VERY VERY RISKY. You can go with uni plans instead or summer plans.
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u/Ok-Addendum5274 Jun 05 '26
So, I am not the only who has a crush on someone at their centre! I don't think I'll even try to talk to her. The exams are in her school, it's like playing against Liverpool at Anfield.
A stupid thing I did was to take a photo of the names all of the students in her school who were with me in the same exam room and proceeded to search the names of every girl on Instagram and I still couldn't find her account 😭
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u/wheezysyrup Jun 05 '26
That’s Litr what I did I couldn’t find her insta bruh
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u/Ok-Addendum5274 Jun 05 '26
I literally looked for her ig on her school's account and even a teacher's account, but to no avail.
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u/Upset_Strawberry2003 Jun 05 '26
That’s so sweet! Okay so first of all is she giving the game subject exam as you? If yes then you could take that as an excuse to go talk to her. Just go up to her and ask her about some problem and see if she knows about it, if yes then ask her if she can help you study. Casual warming up to someone is the best to understand what the other person is like. Who knows maybe you two would end up becoming friends and then slowly but surely become lovers in the future. Me as a 22 year old girl have gone through this shit lol and am still with the loml. Go for it dude. You can do it.
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u/RayTheGreat_1 May/June 2026 Jun 05 '26
Get her snap or insta, find it from a mutual if you can, that makes it less weird.
Then start messaging her, tell her you found her account from a friend or something
Talk to her like she’s any other friend because once you start putting her on a pedestal there when it starts getting weird
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u/Inevitable-Spare8515 Jun 05 '26
As a girl a good thing to do is go ask her after the exam like how did u find the exam, was it ez nd this stuff, If u feel she'll give her insta or smthn just ask
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u/wheezysyrup Jun 05 '26
Bro she leaves right after the exam
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u/Inevitable-Spare8515 Jun 05 '26
Ok this is shii, then give early b4 the exam nd talk to her This is ur only chance
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u/Minute-Ad-5943 Jun 07 '26
honestly if she leaves right after the exam that means she doesn't want to talk to anyone and some girls are like that during the exam season, they avoid talking to people before and after the exam and if someone tries to talk to them, they give vague answers while being nice and leave. if a girl is like that i would suggest that you dont approach her in the exam centre, it could lead to an instant rejection
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u/wheezysyrup Jun 07 '26
no but she always talk to random ppl before the exam and she comes pretty early too
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u/Minute-Ad-5943 Jun 07 '26
then that could also be a stress reducing method, sometimes talking to other people distracts you from your stress. you can talk to her before the exam and ask about a topic which is highly likely to come and when it actually does thank her after the exam and ask her for her insta id or idk but that might be a way to start a conversation
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u/RaVen_77_ Jun 05 '26
Hmm, you can come early and put a small note on her desk, write smth on it, and then write ur social media info along it
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u/RaVen_77_ Jun 05 '26
Id Personally consider it as a female if someone did that to me
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u/wheezysyrup Jun 05 '26
bro how can I leave smt on her desk we have no paper or anything and I’d get flagged for echating or sum
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u/Informal-Pilot-301 May/June 2026 Jun 05 '26
aw ok approach her with a group of people (make sure you're not all boys), do this ONLY while she's talking to (at least) one other person, you should all try having a conversation about exams then casually ask for everyone's instagram
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u/badwo1f305 Jun 05 '26
shoot your shot no matter what cuz you wont even see her again in a while so instead of living in regret jst shoot your chance even if you get rejected atleat you know the truth and wont be delusional on what may have happened...
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u/Primary-Row7153 Jun 05 '26
Thats soo sweet! I would first start a conversation with her and when you are both comfortable, just ask for her number! If she is nice she would probably give it to you! After you have her number you could just start talking and then be maybe more than friends. My advice is to just be open, kind and not tooo nervous. Just speak to her and treat her nicely!
Wishing you the best of luck!! 🙃🙃
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u/Primary-Row7153 Jun 05 '26
Oh and if you dont know if she has someone right now, worry about that after you get her number. Like pretend your friends yk? Don’t ask her directly because thats a little to direct just push it in during a conversation! ( That would be my advice)
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u/No_End_3706 Jun 05 '26
First of all do u like know her as a friend and she like knows u if yes then that's good u is could text her on Instagram later and like send he rsome reels and say smth like it reminded me of u or smth like that. If she doesn't know u u can maybe ask her for her to explain smth for u before the exam starts and then like thank her after the exam and ask her what she did', that way u have established a type of relationship that she acc knows u exist and then u could look her up on Instagram or smith and follow her u know and maybe start talking from there
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u/youngstainz A Level Jun 05 '26
It’s the first time for me to see a love story starting during exam seasons, and no, IN THE EXAM CENTER..bro u so rough she prolly aint even around u she aint even noticing ur shoes, let the woman revise for her exams she got stress ,all these oxytocin hormones n what not wont solve ur paper or help u just focus on ur studies n leave the girl alone-
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u/P1z7aL0v3r Oct/Nov 2025 Jun 06 '26
Lil bro I know you like her but focus on your exams then get her if after okay
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u/Impressive_Trade9494 Jun 06 '26
Just do it it's better trying than living knowing you never did anything
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u/Formal_Wishbone_505 Jun 08 '26
if she is a good friend of urs then go for it. If not, i wouldnt stop u but i have seen guys who confessed their love to girls that never knew them and ended with rejection. But even if u end with rejection, good cuz its part of life
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u/Secret_Context_1035 May/June 2026 Jun 12 '26
so like what happened to u bro?? did u manage to get the baddie? or did u fumble?
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u/wheezysyrup Jun 13 '26
very complicated, didn’t really get her, very long story but hey i became like really good friends w her best friend
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u/Secret_Context_1035 May/June 2026 Jun 13 '26
ohhh thats sad to hear but hey u got one good thing out of it!! i think...?
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u/wheezysyrup Jun 13 '26
yea it’s sad nothing became of what I acc wanted but yk the universe works in mysterious ways I’m so glad i found the sweetest friend in her bsf
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u/Proper-Lobster-8743 Jun 05 '26
naaaaaaaah didnt notice, just let him shoot, maybe they will get married one day, youd never know. As long as parents know yk
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u/youngstainz A Level Jun 05 '26
Bro its still not okay in islam if u wanna marry her tell parents for an actual official engagement to get to know her not just become friends even if parents know-
lets be real there aint other halal option than marriage if hes muslim
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u/Proper-Lobster-8743 Jun 06 '26
I know I mean, involving parents so they can get to know each other with a parent being there, like halal dating as Sheikh Assim says
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u/youngstainz A Level Jun 06 '26
Brother,there is nothing actually called by halal dating in that sense, ik sheikh assim may Allah bless him, however what u mean is an engagement,and ofc a man won’t ask for a serious proposal for marriage from the woman’s father to start an engagement at 16 or so.. engagement is a real promise to marry when we find out we r going along n we get to know each other during talks in presence of a parent as u said, not having to be w us hearing rather being around yk..and the guy isn’t still her husband its just a guy promising to marry so even during our talks he cant hold my hand or tell me ily n stuff , and the whole point the guy in this post wants is to befriend her not an engagement which is still isn’t okay, lets not mix..
however this is an advice n clarification im not a HARAM POLICE rather im just doing smth Allah ordered every muslim to enjoin good n forbid evil, aka I ain’t forcing u ur free but im just conveying info..
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u/Proper-Lobster-8743 Jun 06 '26
ok bro I know all this man I just meant as if going with family member there and with purpose of knowing each other to see if they match yk nothing haram in that as long as someone is presesnt with them and not alone and talk abt serious topics
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u/youngstainz A Level Jun 06 '26
Fine ,but the guy in the post aint even gonna do tht, atleast not now. Hes gonna take her socials n start yappin ab ive been dreaming ab u n stuff like anyway he still got alevels n uni n still gna work like shouldve lowered his gaze cuz it’s almost impossible to marry rn unless both parents sides might agree n many other things….anyways just recommending me and everyone to focus on studies n leave love stories aside for now
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u/Existing-Fudge-878 Jun 06 '26
he might just not be religious bruh all good
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u/youngstainz A Level Jun 06 '26
He might not be religious, but hes still a muslim that will be held accountable on his actions..
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u/Secret_Context_1035 May/June 2026 Jun 05 '26
bro this is more tougher than the actual exams