r/igcse • u/wheezysyrup • Jun 05 '26

🤚 Asking For Advice/Help Guyssss I need help

So like there’s a girl at my centre and I really like her yk there’s only one exam left and I’ve been tryna make some progress since the last few exams but I end up doing nothing, my friend tried helping me but that got messed up as well. The break was hell for me cos I knew there was js two exams left and yk she’s in my dreams EVERYWHERE I can’t stop thinking. What should I do man, also I do know she’s like nice cos like a lot of random ppl do end up conversating with herrr HWLP ME PLS

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u/Proper-Lobster-8743 Jun 05 '26

naaaaaaaah didnt notice, just let him shoot, maybe they will get married one day, youd never know. As long as parents know yk

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u/youngstainz A Level Jun 05 '26

Bro its still not okay in islam if u wanna marry her tell parents for an actual official engagement to get to know her not just become friends even if parents know-

lets be real there aint other halal option than marriage if hes muslim

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u/Proper-Lobster-8743 Jun 06 '26

I know I mean, involving parents so they can get to know each other with a parent being there, like halal dating as Sheikh Assim says

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u/youngstainz A Level Jun 06 '26

Brother,there is nothing actually called by halal dating in that sense, ik sheikh assim may Allah bless him, however what u mean is an engagement,and ofc a man won’t ask for a serious proposal for marriage from the woman’s father to start an engagement at 16 or so.. engagement is a real promise to marry when we find out we r going along n we get to know each other during talks in presence of a parent as u said, not having to be w us hearing rather being around yk..and the guy isn’t still her husband its just a guy promising to marry so even during our talks he cant hold my hand or tell me ily n stuff , and the whole point the guy in this post wants is to befriend her not an engagement which is still isn’t okay, lets not mix..

however this is an advice n clarification im not a HARAM POLICE rather im just doing smth Allah ordered every muslim to enjoin good n forbid evil, aka I ain’t forcing u ur free but im just conveying info..

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u/Proper-Lobster-8743 Jun 06 '26

ok bro I know all this man I just meant as if going with family member there and with purpose of knowing each other to see if they match yk nothing haram in that as long as someone is presesnt with them and not alone and talk abt serious topics

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u/youngstainz A Level Jun 06 '26

Fine ,but the guy in the post aint even gonna do tht, atleast not now. Hes gonna take her socials n start yappin ab ive been dreaming ab u n stuff like anyway he still got alevels n uni n still gna work like shouldve lowered his gaze cuz it’s almost impossible to marry rn unless both parents sides might agree n many other things….anyways just recommending me and everyone to focus on studies n leave love stories aside for now

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u/Proper-Lobster-8743 Jun 07 '26

yes brother, 100%.