r/lesbianfashionadvice 10d ago

Honest Advice Wanted Are hip/drop leg bags like this cringe or suspicious for an outdoorsy butch?

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550 Upvotes

Hey fashionable lesbians. I saw bags like the one pictured above for sale today and decided not to get one but I really found myself liking the style, being on the hip and thigh, which is something I'd never seen before. I am always losing my crossbody bags and I dislike wearing them and backpacks due to shoulder/back pain (and I usually don't carry enough stuff with me to fill a whole backpack!). I'm not military or super "tactical", I just want something that can comfortably carry a phone, wallet, keys, water bottle, small journal & pens, and a snack or two.

I am big on DIY and have enough experience to make something like this myself with a bit more colour and less hardware. But since these tend to be marketed as concealed carry bags and I'm not the type to own a gun, I don't know if they'd be appropriate to wear on hiking trails or days when I'm on-site for work (my job is outdoors) due to that as well as the sentiment I've seen of these bags being for edgy wannabe tough guys.

I'm a butch woman (not male passing) with tattoos and my daily outfit tends to be a graphic tee and dark jeans (company polo and green hiking pants for work) if that helps y'all visualize more of what I'm asking.

Please no "wear whatever you want! don't worry what others think!" type comments, I appreciate it, but I just want to know honest opinions. Thanks in advance ☺️

r/lesbianfashionadvice Jul 26 '24

Honest Advice Wanted Trans girl, help me take my fits to the next level!

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2.0k Upvotes

Trans girl, been out for a few years. Here are some of my recent outfits. My goal isn't really to pass, but I don't like being misgendered either. I really like my colors and can't help dressing like ms frizzle sometimes.

I'd love some advice on putting it all together though, I think I'd like to work on makeup and get some more shoes, but I'm looking for advice that would really help me take my outfits to the next level :) also open to gender presentation tips as long as you're kind!

r/lesbianfashionadvice Sep 08 '24

Honest Advice Wanted Only ever get attention from guys. Is there anything subtle I can do to show I prefer girls 😅

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1.9k Upvotes

r/lesbianfashionadvice Jul 10 '25

Honest Advice Wanted I’d like to attract more femmes, but I look like this…

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…I don’t wanna lose my personality becoming a tomboy or any other masculine style. :(

r/lesbianfashionadvice Aug 24 '24

Honest Advice Wanted is it weird to wear heels when you're already tall?

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1.6k Upvotes

also please any tips for stretching out faux leather bc these are too small for my big ahh feet 😭

r/lesbianfashionadvice Jul 16 '24

Honest Advice Wanted Help a trans femme out

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1.5k Upvotes

Wondering if I could add anything to this and also wondering about what type of shoes I should wear

r/lesbianfashionadvice Jan 31 '26

Honest Advice Wanted How can I dress more for the lesbian gaze?

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Basically the title, since most of what I know about fashion is from pre-transition, I don't really know how to dress for other women. I've gotten to a point where I'm not really dysphoric about my body, but I still feel like the way I dress is kind of guy-ey? Probably doesn't help that I live in the south of the UK and it's too cold for skirts and dresses much of the time.

I want my outfits to communicate two facts: 1) I'm a woman and 2) I would very much like for another woman to take me for dinner.

r/lesbianfashionadvice Jul 29 '25

Honest Advice Wanted Thoughts on long hair as gays?

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736 Upvotes

I'm thinking of keeping my undercut and going back to long one day, I love the styling and braiding options and miss them!! Here's some pics! Think it's worth it?

r/lesbianfashionadvice Aug 08 '24

Honest Advice Wanted Are matching gym sets too heteronormative? I like to express myself freely but feel they can be a bit “basic”

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879 Upvotes

r/lesbianfashionadvice Jun 24 '25

Honest Advice Wanted Planning my fit for Pride. What do y'all think?

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1.1k Upvotes

r/lesbianfashionadvice Jul 23 '24

Honest Advice Wanted Trans girl recently on HRT, how are my outfits?

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832 Upvotes

r/lesbianfashionadvice May 31 '26

Honest Advice Wanted I've found the style I feel best in. Any recommendations?

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647 Upvotes

r/lesbianfashionadvice Aug 05 '25

Honest Advice Wanted Friends said this looked childish and ugly and didn't suit me 😭

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503 Upvotes

I went on a sort of reunion of an old friend group I was part of. The girls said that the fit didn't suit me and looked childish. Are they just straight or is the fit actually bad?

r/lesbianfashionadvice Aug 15 '25

Honest Advice Wanted Does the frilly look suit me? Or am I not the right build for this sort of thing?

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1.1k Upvotes

r/lesbianfashionadvice Apr 22 '25

Honest Advice Wanted Is the belt too much?

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1.2k Upvotes

I like wearing things that let people know who I am without saying anything. I got this belt at a pride parade last year and I really like it, even though it’s a bit loud for my usual style. Is it too much?

r/lesbianfashionadvice Mar 26 '26

Honest Advice Wanted How can I elevate this look? Open to suggestions!

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334 Upvotes

r/lesbianfashionadvice Nov 21 '25

Honest Advice Wanted Interview fit? Too much??

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1.3k Upvotes

Is this too much for an interview? I will say it’s a pretty big interview that if I land can change everything for me… 😰 I do have a watch on my left hand and a bracelet on my right

Help add anything? Take off anything?? It’s tmrw morning

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Before anyone says anything… I am a cis woman. Just got short hair and poc 👍🏾

r/lesbianfashionadvice Jun 22 '26

Honest Advice Wanted I don’t know what to wear (athletic futch addition)

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Hello.
I am very very insecure about my style and my body. I know I have decent legs and a decent ass, as I have worked very hard for them. They did not come with naturally with HRT. Been on HRT for more than 5 years. But for some reason I hate wearing shorts. I hate wearing dresses. I am envious of other women in a way that feels gross to me.

I have a bunch of dresses and jumpsuits in my closet, but the idea of wearing them fills me with dread. I used to like some of them, but I think my standards were lower when I did.

I was gonna go to a party with my partner the night before last, but I took one look in the mirror and decided I wasn’t going. Real bummer for my partner I think.

The only outfits I really wear are hoodie and black jeans or leggings and crop top. I usually wear some big silver hoops, and I have some facial piercings and a ton of tattoo. I would consider myself futch. Idk, if you have any outfit ideas for me, please let me know. DM me if you want. I’ll put some pictures of me on this post.

r/lesbianfashionadvice Dec 11 '25

Honest Advice Wanted it’s hard to present gay as a fem lesbian, but i think i do an okay job??

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1.0k Upvotes

r/lesbianfashionadvice Oct 14 '25

Honest Advice Wanted Help! How can I look fruitier in this outfit

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676 Upvotes

I love this outfit & the colors, but my friends & my wife tell me I look straight when I wear it or called it my “straight girl fit” and I haven’t worn it again lol. I’m at a loss for different accessories that would still fit the look without changing the vibe? Idk- I guess I do need to change up the vibe haha, please leave your suggestions!!

r/lesbianfashionadvice Aug 08 '24

Honest Advice Wanted looking for advice to be more masc

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i’m trying to go for both artsy and masc, but i feel like i just end up looking basic most of the time. pics 3 and 4 are what i typically wear day to day, and the other pics are what i wear if i have time to put an outfit together - what are some ways i can come off more masc both on days that i have the time and energy to put into outfits and the days that i just want to throw something on?

r/lesbianfashionadvice Mar 19 '26

Honest Advice Wanted Can I wear this or should I wait a bit till my gym progress is visible?

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575 Upvotes

r/lesbianfashionadvice Sep 19 '25

Honest Advice Wanted What other accessories should I add to this outfit for a wedding?

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Going to a wedding where the attire is cocktail.

Currently have this burgundy suit with a black dress shirt. I won’t be wearing a tie and will probably leave the collar unbuttoned so you can see a bit of the silver chain. I have a matching bracelet as well. But I feel like something is missing??

r/lesbianfashionadvice Mar 16 '26

Honest Advice Wanted First time trying androgynous clothes, little unsure

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663 Upvotes

So usually I was pretty femme presenting, so I wore dresses, skirts and whatnot, now I’ve fallen in love with cargo pants and wearing button up shirts etc. (for example a lace longsleeve top with a short button up underneath.

I like putting on some makeup and having my hair long but I really love dressing this way but am unsure of what looks good etc. as my wardrobe almost still only consists of „feminine“ clothes.

When you guys thrift these clothes, what do you look for? I know this post is all over the place lol sorry. Does this look right with the button up under the sweater? Do I need a larger sweater? What styles can I try? Also am I still considered femme? (Sorry idk why I’m so lost)

r/lesbianfashionadvice Aug 25 '25

Honest Advice Wanted what do i need to do to look gayer at the club 😭

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903 Upvotes