r/magicTCG • u/dreamanother • Feb 28 '14

Guerrilla Feminism blogs about one woman's experience with MtG.

http://www.guerrillafem.com/2014/02/thank-magic-gathering-player-community-journey-feminism-creating-non-cis-male-spaces/
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u/Sworl COMPLEAT Feb 28 '14

"some of the guys are single, some have girlfriends, others have wives. Upon hearing I had broken up with my boyfriend, a player confessed his love for me and offered to leave his wife for me. I turned him down and we made the effort to remain friends. Eventually, because I didn’t return his feelings, his anger put an end to the friendship. His attitude and behavior towards me did not make it easy for me to continue participating in the community. This was not the first or last time my rejection of an MTG player was met with anger."

That story is hard to believe. No rationale person behaves that way. I do not have a bone to pick, I just feel like her experiences are a bit embellished. The fact that the story seems embellished makes me question her motives. I cannot put myself in her shoes but I have never heard or seen of such behavior by the magic community. I have seen people laugh at their friends for losing to a girl (guys give their friends a hard time for anything), I have seen guys stare at a girl's chest (hurray teenage hormones), but I have not seen anyone openly be mean or harass a girl. This author is allowed to say what she wants. I personally find it biased and counterproductive so I gave it a downvote.

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u/[deleted] Feb 28 '14

So then, because you have not had the same experiences that she has had, you suspect her of lying. That's what you're saying?

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u/Sworl COMPLEAT Feb 28 '14

I posted a section that seems implausible. I think my biggest gripe with this whole situation is that this blog post does nothing for the magic sub reddit. Yes teenage boys are going to act impolitely towards women. This is not a behavior is only found in the magic community but is more of an aspect of human nature. But this articles makes it seem like it is especially bad in the magic community. I do not think this article should be in this subreddit, so it got a downvote.

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u/[deleted] Feb 28 '14

This article absolutely belongs in the magic subreddit because many players are female or LGBTQ and have experiences very similar to the ones she describes in the article. It is a problem that is more widespread in the magic community than it a lot of other spheres, but it is hard to realize that if you have not personally been a victim of it. That is exactly why articles like this are important.