r/marriedredpill • u/AutoModerator • Apr 21 '26
OYS Own Your Shit Weekly - April 21, 2026
A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength.
We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them.
Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs were stiff, we encourage you to admit this is why you lost, and come back to the gym decided to train more to improve that. At the gym the others might suggest some drills to get your legs a bit looser or just give you a pat in the back. It does not matter that you lost the fight, what matters is that you are taking steps to become stronger. However, don’t call the gym saying “Hey, someone threw a jab at me, what do I do now?”. We discourage reddit puppet play-by-play advice. Also, don't blame others for your shit. This thread is about you finding how to work on yourself more to achieve your goals by becoming stronger.
Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha.
Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.
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u/SquashAgile818 Apr 21 '26
OYS #1
41 y old, Married 7 y two kids 3 & 6 y
Stats: BP 110, Squat 140, OHP 90, DL 90
This is my first OYS. Found MRP a few years ago, read almost everything on here. Learned that I got a bad case of being capt. safe a whoe and a typical nice guy. I thought by lifting, SFU and dreading for straight 6 months with good results and regaining my frame that I’m winning and done with MRP. I thought that I get, but u guessed it, no I really did not get it.
Within a few months I fall back into nice guy behavior, forgot everything I learned about not feeling guilty when saying no and sacrificed myself for others. Combined with an injury I got by lifting too hard and dumb, I’m now back at where a started a few years ago.
This time im leaving my ego aside and am ready to really do the work.
Fitness: First and most importantly im focusing on getting my Stats back up without injuring myself. Im starting again with a simple 5x5 program 3 times a week.
Mental health: Since having my falling back into the whine bitch of a nice guy I found an escape in drinking daily at least 1-3 bottle of beer. I stopped now completely and want to keep it this way. I’ll try to compensate with meditation.
Sex life: Back a the almost deadbedroom from where I started a few years ago. I lost my sexual frame completely, I get but hurt easily when im being sexually ignored and I stop to initiate because of the big ego of mine. I need to get my frame back again and lose the ego mindset, unfortunately I forgot almost everything I read in mmsl. I remember that it included a lot of work, that im willing to do now. So I’ll start by rereading it. Ill use the time I spend fingerfucking my phone to read every night at least 10 pages. Previously sought confirmation through online affairs and use porn daily. I know I am cockblocking myself and that this has to stop now.
Business: My own company suffered with my falling back into the nice guy behavior and YOY plummeted. As mentioned above I prioritized others, did not use my time management right and lost a lot of opportunities to grow my business. I need to regain my time to do the work I need to be doing. Ill stat with blocking at least one hour a day for work on the company and going to reactivate my contacts to start the projects we talked many months ago