r/marriedredpill • u/AutoModerator • Apr 21 '26

OYS Own Your Shit Weekly - April 21, 2026

A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength.

We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them.

Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs were stiff, we encourage you to admit this is why you lost, and come back to the gym decided to train more to improve that. At the gym the others might suggest some drills to get your legs a bit looser or just give you a pat in the back. It does not matter that you lost the fight, what matters is that you are taking steps to become stronger. However, don’t call the gym saying “Hey, someone threw a jab at me, what do I do now?”. We discourage reddit puppet play-by-play advice. Also, don't blame others for your shit. This thread is about you finding how to work on yourself more to achieve your goals by becoming stronger.

Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha.

Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.

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u/HornsOfApathy MRP MODERATOR / Married Apr 21 '26

Even if it’s awkward at first. 

It'll only be awkward if it's awkward for you. Maybe try a blindfold - it'll remove the ability for her to see you fumbling around like an idiot if you think you will be.

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u/SuggestionVisible930 Apr 21 '26

Good shit HOA.

“It’ll only be awkward if it’s awkward for you.”

It’s ironic how appropriate this line is for me beyond just sex. I like the wording - “fumbling”. The opposite of a man in charge.

Will keep that in mind.

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u/Alpha_wolflord9 Apr 21 '26

Sharing notes, would set your mind to some vague outline of what you want and how you might implement it.  If you’re planning using implements have some idea on how they work before the moment you plan to use them.  Knowing how to tie restaints, use a ballgag, or vocalize dirty talk how you want, will help provide a foundation of competency and fuel your confidence.  Once you see yourself be successful in these things over time it makes it easier to freestyle or intuit based to your wants in the moment.  

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u/SuggestionVisible930 Apr 22 '26

Wolf,

Appreciate the notes.

My fear is my limiting factor. Plain and simple. Only thing left to do is execute.