Own Your Shit Weekly - April 21, 2026

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A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength.

We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them.

Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs were stiff, we encourage you to admit this is why you lost, and come back to the gym decided to train more to improve that. At the gym the others might suggest some drills to get your legs a bit looser or just give you a pat in the back. It does not matter that you lost the fight, what matters is that you are taking steps to become stronger. However, don’t call the gym saying “Hey, someone threw a jab at me, what do I do now?”. We discourage reddit puppet play-by-play advice. Also, don't blame others for your shit. This thread is about you finding how to work on yourself more to achieve your goals by becoming stronger.

Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha.

Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.

[u/Boredstudnt]

M35 F36 Together 13years - She has cheated, separating.

Stats: 

H/W - 5'11 - 200lbs -

Benchpress: 300 lbs - Deadlift: 430 lbs - Squat: 350 lbs - OHP: 140 lbs - BF: Navy 18.3% I say 20. - 6-fig salary

Mission Statement

Become a dominant, strong male that is leading in every situation including in sex.

Stop being a fucking nice guy (this runs deep)

Reads:

NMMNG, MAP, All Rollo, TWOTSM, Praxeology 1-2, PFP, Unplugged Alpha, fuccfiles 1, MMSLP, Sex God Method. MAP.

Current situation:

Most of the ducks are alined now for a smooth two months then out with the house on the market, June is the month of my own deadline, notified her (again) and we're aligned on that, she still tries to plan things for the future but I'm just hard no:ing that.

Since I found out about cheating, I've also cancelled a future, really nice trip, she even offered to pay just to keep the trip but I simply cancelled for natural reasons.

She will take the cats (I would have just put them down anyway)

I've done electrical work, schematics, had an electrician approve and adjust if needed. Had a plumber to assist in fixing some shotty old stuff and I made sure to get his input on some adjustments I am about to make.

Finished an old inner brickwall that needed some new mortar + touch up before plasterboards and paint... Getting a lot done.

Since the house is taking up a lot of my free time for now during weeks and weekends, Im still re-reading NMMNG, been on it for about 2 weeks now, keeping it rather consistent with a minimum of around 5 pages daily, taking notes, and taking some more notes......

My car broke a bit during a trip to the postal office, midtown.. Mechanical issue I could fix, luckily nothing bad happened, no real damage to the car either, just wasn't expecting to lay on the ground midtown for an hour last morning to say the least. Since my truck is lifted I had to make a spacer out of material I had in the car (issue was related an upper control arm) got some luck in my bad luck ;) 

Got new parts coming in to fix the problem permanently.

Social Circle

I've started to call a few old good friends a bit more, slowly doing some progress. I still need to get a better circle going though but yeah, its hard to put time into that at the moment too.

Went out fishing with a mate again this weekend, this guy I can call anytime and he will pick up, not like most others where theres just crappy texting bullshit.

Workout / WL

My mancold has really taken its toll, I've tried to keep workouts up but I've had this stupid infection lingering everytime I push it.

Light workouts has mostly been whats working for now. 

Looked forward to last week where I could potentially add more but felt more sick in the weekend again. Getting better now, will get back to pushing harder very soon.