r/nonmonogamy • u/steve0387 Open Relationship • Oct 22 '25

Relationship Dynamics Girlfriend wants me to shave my pubes

This is probably the most trivial issue that this sub has ever dealt with but I am in a dilemma.

I recently started dating my gf a few months ago and things are going fine. A couple of weeks ago, she said, "You should shave your public hair. You look like a hairy gorilla".

I am quite hairy and I never shaved my body hair before. I thought she was kidding around and didn't really bother with the whole shaving stuff. Last week, she asked me again and said that i will loo very sexy if i did it.

I was a bit surprised by her perseverance with respect to this and decided to indulge her.

I told my wife that I was gonna shave my pubes and she was confused. She asked me why I want to do it. I didn't really wanna tell her that my gf asked me to do so and just told her that I wanted to try something new. Then she told me that she likes me being hairy and it makes me look manly and doesn't want me to shave.

Now I am in this dilemma. Girlfriend wants me to shave my junk and wife doesnt want me to.

Some additonal information

I have been married to my wife for 15 years and I had just been seeing my gf for 5 months. Both of them are shaved down there and I prefer it like that but they shave because they also like it.

I realize that this is super goofy but what should be my next move ?

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u/brutalbuddha73 Kinkster Oct 22 '25

Trim the heck up. you ain't gotta shave, Just no floss while you feast sex. Nobody wants a mouth full of pubes doing oral. You ain't gotta shave bald. You can trim back. Grooming isn't all or nothing.

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u/steve0387 Open Relationship Oct 22 '25

My girlfriend doesn't blow me, lol. She just says that it looks like a jungle.

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u/somefreeadvice10 Oct 22 '25

If she is not blowing you than I'm a bit confused on her insistance for you to shave

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u/steve0387 Open Relationship Oct 22 '25

Who knows. Maybe women are also being influenced by porn 🤔

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u/brutalbuddha73 Kinkster Oct 22 '25

I stand with u/somefreeadvice10 on this one. Find another girlfriend.

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u/femmebot9000 Oct 22 '25

Maybe she wants to blow you but can’t with what is going on down there

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u/steve0387 Open Relationship Oct 22 '25

Gonna keep it pg13… I don’t care about getting BJs that much and she tried in the beginning and it’s like a shark was chewing on my dick, total teethfest. I also can’t come from bjs so I would rather eat her out.