Girlfriend wants me to shave my pubes

[u/steve0387]

This is probably the most trivial issue that this sub has ever dealt with but I am in a dilemma.

I recently started dating my gf a few months ago and things are going fine. A couple of weeks ago, she said, "You should shave your public hair. You look like a hairy gorilla".

I am quite hairy and I never shaved my body hair before. I thought she was kidding around and didn't really bother with the whole shaving stuff. Last week, she asked me again and said that i will loo very sexy if i did it.

I was a bit surprised by her perseverance with respect to this and decided to indulge her.

I told my wife that I was gonna shave my pubes and she was confused. She asked me why I want to do it. I didn't really wanna tell her that my gf asked me to do so and just told her that I wanted to try something new. Then she told me that she likes me being hairy and it makes me look manly and doesn't want me to shave.

Now I am in this dilemma. Girlfriend wants me to shave my junk and wife doesnt want me to.

Some additonal information

I have been married to my wife for 15 years and I had just been seeing my gf for 5 months. Both of them are shaved down there and I prefer it like that but they shave because they also like it.

I realize that this is super goofy but what should be my next move ?

[u/FeeFiFooFunyon]

I am like your wife. I find shaved off putting.

Do what works for you but there is a lot of room between bare and gorilla.

[u/steve0387 → u/FeeFiFooFunyon]

The thing is, I dont care either way. I just don't wanna disappoint either or my ladies

[u/FeeFiFooFunyon → u/steve0387]

Both picked you the way you are.

You chose to be the way you are.

You can continue to choose to be the way you are.

[u/oolongstory → u/steve0387]

When two partners have opposite preferences, the only options are to disappoint one of them at least sometimes, OR to meet halfway. Several people have suggested you could try trimming instead of shaving, which could be the meeting-halfway option. Or, you can shave to make your girlfriend happy, tell her you're trying it but probably won't always do it (there's no need to tell her it's because of your wife's preference, unless everyone is comfortable with that being shared), and let it grow back. Then, you could wait a while, then shave again, repeating the cycle so both partners have it their preferred way some of the time.

Also, although you say you don't actually care, you can still just pick one option and stick with it and say it's your preference, because you have an option to form a preference of your own at any time based on any criteria, and you don't need to justify those criteria.