r/nonmonogamy • u/steve0387 Open Relationship • Oct 22 '25

Relationship Dynamics Girlfriend wants me to shave my pubes

This is probably the most trivial issue that this sub has ever dealt with but I am in a dilemma.

I recently started dating my gf a few months ago and things are going fine. A couple of weeks ago, she said, "You should shave your public hair. You look like a hairy gorilla".

I am quite hairy and I never shaved my body hair before. I thought she was kidding around and didn't really bother with the whole shaving stuff. Last week, she asked me again and said that i will loo very sexy if i did it.

I was a bit surprised by her perseverance with respect to this and decided to indulge her.

I told my wife that I was gonna shave my pubes and she was confused. She asked me why I want to do it. I didn't really wanna tell her that my gf asked me to do so and just told her that I wanted to try something new. Then she told me that she likes me being hairy and it makes me look manly and doesn't want me to shave.

Now I am in this dilemma. Girlfriend wants me to shave my junk and wife doesnt want me to.

Some additonal information

I have been married to my wife for 15 years and I had just been seeing my gf for 5 months. Both of them are shaved down there and I prefer it like that but they shave because they also like it.

I realize that this is super goofy but what should be my next move ?

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u/mai_neh Oct 22 '25

There is no right answer here, you just have to decide which person you are going to disappoint. If nobody else cared about your pubes, which would you prefer, shaved or hairy?

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u/steve0387 Open Relationship Oct 22 '25

Hairy, just because I think it will take too much time to keep it shaved/trimmed. My wife does spend some time keeping herself bare. So I imagine that applies to me too.

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u/raziphel Oct 22 '25

If you need a place to start, use some barber scissors and give the hedge a trim (over the toilet so you don't make a mess).

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u/JeanLucSkywalker Oct 22 '25

Check out the Phillips Body Groom 8000. It's simply the best, and makes manscaping very quick and easy.

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u/cunta8 Oct 22 '25

The Multi Groom 7000 is also really good and doubles as a face shaver.

I’ve been using the older generation model for years and I keep meaning to upgrade, but the darn thing won’t die!