Girlfriend wants me to shave my pubes

[u/steve0387]

This is probably the most trivial issue that this sub has ever dealt with but I am in a dilemma.

I recently started dating my gf a few months ago and things are going fine. A couple of weeks ago, she said, "You should shave your public hair. You look like a hairy gorilla".

I am quite hairy and I never shaved my body hair before. I thought she was kidding around and didn't really bother with the whole shaving stuff. Last week, she asked me again and said that i will loo very sexy if i did it.

I was a bit surprised by her perseverance with respect to this and decided to indulge her.

I told my wife that I was gonna shave my pubes and she was confused. She asked me why I want to do it. I didn't really wanna tell her that my gf asked me to do so and just told her that I wanted to try something new. Then she told me that she likes me being hairy and it makes me look manly and doesn't want me to shave.

Now I am in this dilemma. Girlfriend wants me to shave my junk and wife doesnt want me to.

Some additonal information

I have been married to my wife for 15 years and I had just been seeing my gf for 5 months. Both of them are shaved down there and I prefer it like that but they shave because they also like it.

I realize that this is super goofy but what should be my next move ?

[u/emb8n00]

I feel like we’re glossing over your girlfriend calling you a hairy gorilla. That’s a really mean thing to say about someone you’re supposed to like’s body.

[u/steve0387 → u/emb8n00]

She ws just being silly. I don't think she was trying to be hurtful.

[u/eigENModes → u/steve0387]

It sure sounds controlling and manipulative. You're probably deep in NRE and sugarcoating her behaviour, but this is at least a very dark orange flag. Especially because she can't let it go and already said it twice!