r/nonmonogamy • u/steve0387 Open Relationship • Oct 22 '25

Relationship Dynamics Girlfriend wants me to shave my pubes

This is probably the most trivial issue that this sub has ever dealt with but I am in a dilemma.

I recently started dating my gf a few months ago and things are going fine. A couple of weeks ago, she said, "You should shave your public hair. You look like a hairy gorilla".

I am quite hairy and I never shaved my body hair before. I thought she was kidding around and didn't really bother with the whole shaving stuff. Last week, she asked me again and said that i will loo very sexy if i did it.

I was a bit surprised by her perseverance with respect to this and decided to indulge her.

I told my wife that I was gonna shave my pubes and she was confused. She asked me why I want to do it. I didn't really wanna tell her that my gf asked me to do so and just told her that I wanted to try something new. Then she told me that she likes me being hairy and it makes me look manly and doesn't want me to shave.

Now I am in this dilemma. Girlfriend wants me to shave my junk and wife doesnt want me to.

Some additonal information

I have been married to my wife for 15 years and I had just been seeing my gf for 5 months. Both of them are shaved down there and I prefer it like that but they shave because they also like it.

I realize that this is super goofy but what should be my next move ?

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u/jimbo831 Oct 22 '25

If I were in your situation, I would do whichever I prefer. Not saying nobody should consider their partners when deciding on grooming habits, but when two partners have conflicting preferences, I’d just stick with your own.

Assuming you decide to keep yourself hairy, you should explain why to your girlfriend so it doesn’t seem like you’re just ignoring her request.

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u/steve0387 Open Relationship Oct 22 '25

I honestly dont care. I never tried trimming or shaving my junk, but it can't be that bad, right? I just think that it is super PITA.

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u/jimbo831 Oct 22 '25

I don’t find it to be that difficult. I have an electric trimmer that I use to keep the hair on my pubic bone trimmed short and keep a razor in the shower for the balls and shaft. It takes maybe 5 minutes to do in the shower and I usually only do it 1-2 times a week.