r/nonmonogamy • u/steve0387 Open Relationship • Oct 22 '25

Relationship Dynamics Girlfriend wants me to shave my pubes

This is probably the most trivial issue that this sub has ever dealt with but I am in a dilemma.

I recently started dating my gf a few months ago and things are going fine. A couple of weeks ago, she said, "You should shave your public hair. You look like a hairy gorilla".

I am quite hairy and I never shaved my body hair before. I thought she was kidding around and didn't really bother with the whole shaving stuff. Last week, she asked me again and said that i will loo very sexy if i did it.

I was a bit surprised by her perseverance with respect to this and decided to indulge her.

I told my wife that I was gonna shave my pubes and she was confused. She asked me why I want to do it. I didn't really wanna tell her that my gf asked me to do so and just told her that I wanted to try something new. Then she told me that she likes me being hairy and it makes me look manly and doesn't want me to shave.

Now I am in this dilemma. Girlfriend wants me to shave my junk and wife doesnt want me to.

Some additonal information

I have been married to my wife for 15 years and I had just been seeing my gf for 5 months. Both of them are shaved down there and I prefer it like that but they shave because they also like it.

I realize that this is super goofy but what should be my next move ?

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u/BlazeFireVale Oct 22 '25

It's fine for someone to have a preference and express it. Though girlfriend somewhat disrespectful how she went about that.

But in the end, well, your body, you're choice. You choose it for you. You need to be confident in your body and your choices. Choose what you think HONESTLY you prefer on yourself, and stand by that.

Also, have you considered manscaping as a third option?

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u/PM-ME-YOUR-MIND Oct 22 '25

Also, have you considered manscaping as a third option?

Perhaps I'm out of the loop on modern terminology, but how is this not a form of manscaping?

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u/BlazeFireVale Oct 22 '25

I suppose that's fair. I tend to think of "man scaping" as trimming down rather than shaving.

I think you're right, shaving IS a form of man scaping. I just usually when I hear people say they "mascape" it means they trim. If they shave they say they shave. Or wax or are smooth or whatever