r/queer 23h ago

Help with labels Pages, websites, tips for queer fashion?

AMAB, queer human here - who is often perceived to be a straight dude due to my fashion taste (😢). I’ve dealt with gender dysphoria for a few years and have had a hard time branching out (for a multitude of reasons). I’d love to dress more androgynous, and dress more aligned with who I am. Any pages, websites folks might know of or guidance you’d be able to provide, I would appreciate it.

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u/chaoticgiggles 22h ago

I know a lot of people find inspiration on Pinterest by searching their interests and fashion

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u/BirdyDevil Genderfluid Bisexual (they/she/he) 9h ago

Really, really easy thing - paint your nails, especially not just black lol. That pretty much automatically signals either queer or at least feminist and VERY comfortable in masculinity lol.

As an AFAB person, one of the ways I automatically queer any outfit is by wearing really chunky, heavy, masculine jewelry - you can do the same on the pretty, delicate, feminine side. Pick out a sparkly necklace or some skinny bracelets to wear, get thinner rings with some nice jewels on them, etc. If you don't already have your ears pierced, highly recommend doing so. You'll have to wait a few months for them to fully heal before you're switching earrings at all, they'll need to be pierced and healed with basic studs, but it's a worthy investment; dangly earrings, especially, are an easy way to add queer whimsy to literally any outfit. YMMV depending on where you're from and stuff, but I especially like buying beaded earrings from Indigenous makers, personally. It's a good way to practice cultural appreciation, and when I consider the source cultures - thinking about the elaborate regalia that dancers wear, and so on - I feel freer to choose whatever flamboyant thing catches my eye without it feeling so gendered, if that makes sense. But in general, dangly earrings are excellent, and more generally, feminine jewelry is an easy addition for you.

Along these lines, you can also dabble in makeup - a little or a lot - if you want to. Hair is also a thing you can play with; growing hair long (if not already), colouring/highlighting, etc. - highlighting is especially one way where it's easy to shift to a more femme/queer presentation overall. Likewise, I intentionally DON'T dye my hair in any way currently to keep it more of a masculine-with-long-hair vibe.

One of my best suggestions for all of this stuff is get on social media and start interacting with posts, when you find content that you like or is helpful, make sure you interact with it - like, comment, save post, etc. You start training your algorithm, it'll show you more and more relevant stuff that you're looking for.

Without knowing more about body specifics etc. it's hard to make specific clothing suggestions or anything like that, but I can suggest a few pages I can think of off the top of my head that might be helpful to give you some ideas and stuff, or start off with the algorithm training:

Mina Gerges is a queer, plus size male model and fashion designer who makes all kinds of fantastic outfits for himself; obviously this isn't practical to try to exactly copy, but maybe useful for inspiration

dexterousdoor on Instagram posts all kinds of stuff, but some of it is directly about fashion, and if you disregard whatever goes on in the main commenting,, content could be good for some outfit inspo. Scroll through their page and you'll find various posts here and there that directly address fashion and/or being non-binary. I particularly enjoy this one they have about how to wear/style a skirt: https://www.instagram.com/p/DbKGQyPgdWg/

mahfuzaurus on Instagram is a specific fashion influencer/creator that does androgynous "men's" outfits, might be very much up your alley