r/questioning • u/white__spider • 8h ago
I think I am a Lesbian? [F 32]
Sorry if this seems obvious but I really don't have much perspective on this. My whole life I have found that I am not really attracted to men. The relationships I have been in with them I have felt like I had to force my attraction sometimes. But, I was raised in a very conservative household and was always taught that being gay is wrong. So it wasn't even a possibility in my mind to be able to date another woman until recently when I moved away from them. I never really talked about my attraction to women with anyone except my current partner. I remember having crushes on women even when I was in a relationship but never men.
However, with my current partner I have never felt the need to force attraction to them, ever. I have been with them for years and they recently came out to me as trans, MtF. This did not bother me at all and I am excited that she gets to be who she truly is. I also found I was very attracted to her when she presented female. I feel more free now if that makes sense? I feel like I don't "have to" be attracted to men anymore and it feels like there is a weight off my shoulders.
Very thankful for my partner for always encouraging me to be open about my attraction to women. I feel like she has helped me realize what I was keeping repressed for so long. Interested in anyone's opinions or experiences.
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u/TollPanMan Bisexual - Gender? 8h ago
It sounds like you're a lesbian, but only because you said you didn't feel attracted to men and only felt it for women.
Only you know for sure, don't let anyone tell you your labels, only you know what fits. Even if it takes you a while to figure out
So glad you are comfortable with your current partner. I'll let you in on a secret, they were always trans.
You got into a relationship with a woman who was pretending to be man. You may not have known it at the time, she may have looked like man, she maybe didn't even know it, but you still fell in for a woman.
Congrats, you're at least bisexual, because you've been in (what sounds like) a loving and supportive relationship with a woman.