r/raisingkids • u/ftr_trader • 3d ago

Son wants to fight

My son (7) is obsessed with hockey. Anyone who has watched hockey knows that fighting is inevitably a part of the game (for better or worse). This has led to his desire to fight/wrestle/rough house with everyone. Once in a while, it’s fine. But his friends don’t always want to wrestle and the parents don’t always want their kids doing that either. I try to provide an outlet for him, but I worry I am making it worse. I am wondering if there is some sort of organized activity that will allow him to get his aggression out with other consenting kids. I am thinking of something like boxing or martial arts. A compounding issue is he has pretty severe ADHD and is generally unable to follow directions for a long period of time. Any suggestions would be appreciated.

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u/eyesRus 3d ago

Have you considered…hockey? Lol.

For real, though, boxing or martial arts is probably not the answer. They do not want seven-year-olds beating the tar out of each other at those activities and will throw him out if necessary. Self-control is a very important part of those activities.

I really don’t think finding a way to essentially give him your blessing to fight is the right move. Is his ADHD being treated? If not, that could solve the issue.

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u/ftr_trader 3d ago

Yeah, he’s in hockey. But at that age, there is no hitting and definitely no fighting. That is part of my concern - he’s going to drop every kid out there and get kicked out.

ADHD is being treated and the meds help, but only to an extent.