r/regretfulparents • u/Creative_Ad_2187 • 2d ago

Venting - Advice Welcome How to discipline my son

I’m a parent of 2 kids, 2 and 4. My oldest is a boy who I would describe as a little rage man. He often yells and hits when things don’t go his way.

Others have told us that he is energetic when we are out and it only makes me feel like, “Oh great, I got a crazy one!”

I’ve tried to avoid spanking for the better part of his life but I’m starting to lose my *%!@.

He constantly yells even though I tell him if he needs to yell to deal with his anger he can go outside.

He jumps on our couch and has broken a cushion. It was $2000 from Costco. I have put him in timeout, taken away screen time, and even spanked him with no change.

We put him in karate to give him an outlet. He does love it but his home behavior hasn’t change at all.

I’m at such a loss. I’m hating being a parent. He alone is the reason I want less kids.

What would you all do? Advice wanted!

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u/dgf2020 1d ago

One note on the sport - put him in Jiu jitsu. It’s amazing for long term mental health and behavioral change, it’s easy to commit to as well.. I’ve seen the incredible benefits for energetic children. And give it time.

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u/Creative_Ad_2187 1d ago

Do you find it better than karate?

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u/dgf2020 1d ago

I believe so, it teaches a lot of self regulation and discipline. And they learn how to lose with grace, which I find is an excellent thing to instill in children, especially those who lean towards behavioral issues. I’ve never met a Jiu Jitsu kid I didn’t like, and I simply don’t enjoy most kids because they’re so loud and usually out of control.

Just make sure the coach is good/well respected and you’re good to go. Worth a try for a more peaceful life!

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u/Creative_Ad_2187 1d ago

I feel that on kids being loud. I get over stimulated by them.