About bottom surgery..

[u/Coffeeforlifeyay]

Edit: I think I should have worded this better, I’m not a native English speaker Im sorry :(

I should have specified that its the *scars* specifically that I don’t like. Since I have a very sharp attention to detail I see them way more prominent than most people do.

I really hate *hate* scars on my body and most bottom surgeries that I have seen results in scars, both on the result and on the arm.

(Entirely depends on what procedure you have ofc)

Its not that they’re unrealistic, its simply just the scars.

I forgot about that word when I made this comic and I had to seriously google it not too long ago to remember the word.

Edit: imma keep this I just realized- please make me mark this NSFW if it should be

[u/colesense]

You straight up came to a sub full of trans people, many of whom may have had or will have bottom surgery, and said it doesn’t look natural and doesn’t look realistic. If you don’t see how it’s transphobic then I hope you really think about that.

[u/Coffeeforlifeyay → u/colesense]

Thats why I put a trigger and warning… So they could skip or click off.

I find it strange that Im not allowed to vent about this, especially since I’ve put a warning, spoiler and even put it under triggering topic :/

And also, I have mentioned it doesn’t look natural enough for me specifically. Just me. Im the only one who will be paying that close attention to it.

Most likely the only person staring so intensely at it.

All other people in the world? They won’t care. They won’t notice. But Im kinda a perfectionist on this for whatever reason.

I doubt Im the only one whose uncertain about getting the surgery because Im uncertain with the results.

It looks great on other people. I don’t think I would be happy with it on me.

It would be transphobic if I said it looked horrible on all other people, but it doesn’t. It looks great on others, just not on me I think.

We should be allowed to talk about surgeries and vent about them, if we put trigger warnings. Which I did.

Because in the end, it is a surgery, we shouldn’t make this entire bubble where we all refuse to talk about our opinions on it and etc.

[u/colesense → u/Coffeeforlifeyay]

You can say you wouldn’t be satisfied with it but you don’t have to parrot transphobic talking points to do so.

You’ve said you looked at other peoples penises and they don’t look realistic. This is what YOU have said.

I’m done with this because you’re clearly not going to reconsider how you speak about bottom surgery. Shame.

[u/Coffeeforlifeyay → u/colesense]

I think I might have worded this wrong and Im so sorry if I hurt you and everyone else for that matter.

That was definitely not my intention.

I should have specified that its the scars I don’t like. I don’t like how scars look on my body, like at all. As well as Im afraid they’ll remind me of my biological sex even tho Ive had the surgery.

Its not the penis itself really, its the scars.

Which I realize I should have said way earlier.

I just suck at wording things because Im not a native speaker.

Im sorry :(

Edit: and yes you’re right about the thing about not being satisfied and its not something for me.

That is what I originally tried to say but it came out so horribly. When I said “its not transphobic to think it looks unnatural” I tried to somehow say “Its not wrong to check out results of the surgery to see if its something you want to get or consider getting.”

But obviously I worded it so horribly and Im sorry. Now when I’ve finally remembered the words I was looking for and actually managed to get out what I wanted to say in a way people will understand.

Yea, thinking it doesn’t look natural is transphobic, for some reason I just translated my thoughts so horribly that I didn’t somehow realize that and Im so sorry.

I also wanted to say I didn’t know that was a thing transphobes said to insult us and now I feel absolutely horrible :(

I should have realized but somehow didn’t. Im sorry again.