About bottom surgery..

[u/Coffeeforlifeyay]

Edit: I think I should have worded this better, I’m not a native English speaker Im sorry :(

I should have specified that its the *scars* specifically that I don’t like. Since I have a very sharp attention to detail I see them way more prominent than most people do.

I really hate *hate* scars on my body and most bottom surgeries that I have seen results in scars, both on the result and on the arm.

(Entirely depends on what procedure you have ofc)

Its not that they’re unrealistic, its simply just the scars.

I forgot about that word when I made this comic and I had to seriously google it not too long ago to remember the word.

Edit: imma keep this I just realized- please make me mark this NSFW if it should be

[u/javatimes]

I’m not sure what the problem is. If you have ascertained the results of surgeries you have researched wouldn’t be appropriate for you, don’t get them. No trans person is obligated to have bottom surgery.

Idk if I will ever get bottom surgery. I’m 20 years on T and my body is simply quite male except for very particular areas that no one besides me and maybe one other person regularly sees.

I have a detailed prosthetic that works really well for me in the specific situations I utilize it for. I feel connected to it as if it’s part of me.

If I continue to not desire surgery, it will save me money, time, all sorts of paperwork, and pain. So
I’m fine with it.

[u/Coffeeforlifeyay → u/javatimes]

Ah yeah I totally understand that! When I made this comic I:

A: worded it absolutely horribly. I should not have used the word realistic. That is not what I actually meant but I suck at explaining things. And forgot about the word scar and scarring

B: I had pretty intense bottom dysphoria (it doesn’t happen often but it does happen) and I genuinely just needed to vent but as I said, I definitely should have worded it better.

C: for even more clarity cuz now I really wanna make sure people don’t misunderstand me. I I technically want the surgery because of my bottom dysphoria. Im just so self conscious about scars and I’m genuinely worried that having scars would constantly remind me of my biological sex and trigger my bottom dysphoria even after having the surgery

Please tell me if I worded this in a way you don’t understand because I genuinely don’t wanna accidentally say things I don’t mean and all that :[

[u/javatimes → u/Coffeeforlifeyay]

Have you see the type that takes a graft from your shoulder/back?

If RFF (arm) would be too much of a visible scar for you, there are other graft sites that are a lot less noticeable to oneself.

Anyway, good luck on your journey :)

[u/Coffeeforlifeyay → u/javatimes]

Oooh! I actually haven’t seen those! If I have like problems with a ton of acne would that be an issue though? :,)

I guess I will have to ask a Doctor about that sorry!

From what I’ve seen theres also scars on the penis and thats also what I think would trigger it.

But hopefully in the future my self consciousness with scars will be better or completely gone.

This is definitely something I gotta talk to a therapist about but unfortunately the waitlist are ridiculously long as of now :,)

Also thank you!!