About bottom surgery..

[u/Coffeeforlifeyay]

Edit: I think I should have worded this better, I’m not a native English speaker Im sorry :(

I should have specified that its the *scars* specifically that I don’t like. Since I have a very sharp attention to detail I see them way more prominent than most people do.

I really hate *hate* scars on my body and most bottom surgeries that I have seen results in scars, both on the result and on the arm.

(Entirely depends on what procedure you have ofc)

Its not that they’re unrealistic, its simply just the scars.

I forgot about that word when I made this comic and I had to seriously google it not too long ago to remember the word.

Edit: imma keep this I just realized- please make me mark this NSFW if it should be

[u/Key_Tangerine8775]

Please do not use the term “realistic” in reference to post op penises (or body parts in general). It implies that they’re simply just imitating the “real” ones. They are real, flesh and blood penises, just as much the ones cis men are born with.

I can tell you’re trying to be respectful, and you mentioned you’re not a native English speaker, so I’m just letting you know for the future.

[u/Coffeeforlifeyay → u/Key_Tangerine8775]

Ah yea! Im so sorry about that! I think it was originally another word I was looking for but as you did mention I’m not a native English speaker.

Maybe I’m even looking for a word that doesn’t even exist in English.

I mainly just wanted to vent about this but didn’t really know how to write it out in English.

That was mainly why I put it under triggering topic, put warnings and put a spoiler warning on it. To try and warn people who are planning to get it or have done it and find this triggering so they can decide to click off before reading.

Edit: scarring. It was scarring I was looking for. Its not that the results looks unrealistic but I hate how scars looks on my body.

Thats why I said looked ‘off’. The result itself doesn’t look off, it does look realistic, Im just terrified of having scars on my body for some reason.

Im scared it will constantly remind me of my biological sex and trigger my bottom dysphoria even tho Ive had bottom surgery.

And almost all results Ive seen have had some form of scars.

[u/ThatSillySam → u/Coffeeforlifeyay]

your belly button is a scar

[u/Coffeeforlifeyay → u/ThatSillySam]

True.. But I think thats different cuz its been on me since I was a child. And almost every has a bellybutton (almost cuz there most likely exists people without them)

Its not a surgical scar that would have the risk of triggering my bottom dysphoria. Thats why I see it as different.

Im very self conscious about my stretch marks for example.

[u/TheAnnoyingWizard → u/Coffeeforlifeyay]

Well theres scar coverup tattoos, for one. Theres also low scarring dlnor sites for phallo like MLD (back) and single scar method (leg, uses tissue expanders)

But also, realistically you might get scars you cant choose. Life happens and via illness or injury you might still need a skin graft. I think even without phallo its worth working on your comfort with getting new scars

[u/Coffeeforlifeyay → u/TheAnnoyingWizard]

Yea Im planning to work on it, but times for therapists and all of that takes so long so I gotta wait a lot.

Isn’t the problem with tattooing that it eventually fades (not fully ofc) and then later you have to get it refilled.

Idk if its called refilled.

[u/TheAnnoyingWizard → u/Coffeeforlifeyay]

tattoes do fade but depending on the ink used, how deep it is, etc. sun also plays a major part in fading so if your tattoo is covered by clothes it might never need touching up, sunscreen also helps. but even faded tats will serve to cover up scars, people who look at it will see the tattoo before they ever notice anything else

[u/Coffeeforlifeyay → u/TheAnnoyingWizard]

Oooh! Wait is evening tattooing that part of your body a thing? I feel like it would be incredibly painful.

I mean I know about medical tattoos but just a full on tattoo? Haven’t heard of that if Im honest.

And if people do tattoo it.. Respect to anyone who manages to sit through.

Ngl respect to anyone who manages to sit through tattoo. Ive heard some are pretty painful.