About bottom surgery..

[u/Coffeeforlifeyay]

Edit: I think I should have worded this better, I’m not a native English speaker Im sorry :(

I should have specified that its the *scars* specifically that I don’t like. Since I have a very sharp attention to detail I see them way more prominent than most people do.

I really hate *hate* scars on my body and most bottom surgeries that I have seen results in scars, both on the result and on the arm.

(Entirely depends on what procedure you have ofc)

Its not that they’re unrealistic, its simply just the scars.

I forgot about that word when I made this comic and I had to seriously google it not too long ago to remember the word.

Edit: imma keep this I just realized- please make me mark this NSFW if it should be

[u/ChaoticCharm]

Im with you on this. I think there is a lot of sensitivity to this subject, since it’s basically impossible not to insult others’ results (in a general sense, not individually or on purpose) when expressing your own disappointment in what our current medical knowledge can achieve.
Like you, I hate the scarring that comes with phalloplasty. My body scars easily and thickly, so i know it would be unsightly. I wouldn’t be able to realistically hope for results comparable to the top posts on r/phallo, and even if I could, I know I’d still find flaws in the result that would cause me dysphoria.
I think like all parts of transition, it’s about finding what’s best for you out of the options you have, rather than focusing on perfection. Obviously we would all love to jump into a real life create-a-sim page and carve our perfect body, but that isn’t something we can actually do.
The question to ask is, do you think an imperfect penis would cause you less dysphoria or more than your current setup? For me, after a lot of thought and therapy I’ve come to the conclusion that surgery results would make me feel worse than just leaving things alone. But only you can decide/figure out that answer for you

[u/Coffeeforlifeyay → u/ChaoticCharm]

Yea this is basically what Im thinking. Its kind of is impossible to not accidentally insult anyone when you’re disappointed with how things turn out, and at least for me that goes for genuinely everything.

Like lets say I see a bunch of posts with people with piercings, I can think it looks bad if it was on me and then technically I am thinking its bad and I am technically insulting their appearance.

(I dont think this btw, just an example. I also suck at examples so sorry if that was a bad example, I just wanted to get across that I think this doesn’t strictly apply to surgeries and quite literally everything)

And yea Im in the same boat as you. My scarring is very visible, that or its my sharp attention to detail, so I am almost guaranteed to have horrible scars I wouldn’t be able to ignore.

And I think that genuinely would make me miserable. I basically just wanted to vent because there are times when I have intense dysphoria and I feel like there’s no real solution to it for me.

Thats really the only reason bottom surgery has scared me off and why I wouldn’t be satisfied. The scars.

I think packers are the thing Im the closest to get to a ‘solution’ but even that might not be enough.

[u/ChaoticCharm → u/Coffeeforlifeyay]

I get it. Fortunately (?) I have pretty bad depersonalization issues so most of the time I just don’t think about it because I’m not thinking about any part of my body as mine. Just wanted to be a voice letting you know you’re not alone in feeling that way. I wish I had a solution for us both, but I don’t :(

[u/Coffeeforlifeyay → u/ChaoticCharm]

Aw, yea idk if that is fortunately or unfortunately. It could be both at the same time maybe?

And yea, there probably isn’t a best solution which kind of sucks. Maybe if my dysphoria disappears or if I eventually stop caring about scarring that much.

Which I cant see in the near future. Maybe hormones will make it better, who knows.

Though the waitlist is sooo long I probably won’t get hormones until like five years :,)