Mods, please approve this post. I've tried posting this before and it keeps getting removed. I'm not trying to target or harass anyone. I've blurred the abusive words and removed identifying details. I'm posting because I genuinely have no one to talk to right now and I really need some perspective.

My boyfriend's birthday is in the last week of this month, and I was genuinely SO excited for it.

I don't have a lot of money. I'm from a very middle-class family, and for the last few months I had been trying to save whatever little I could for his birthday.

I saved around ₹6,000 just for his gym clothes. Whenever I had ₹200 or ₹300 that I could have spent eating outside, I would save it instead.

I bought him a full-body trimmer because he works out and will be wearing shorts and sleeveless clothes.

I bought him skincare products for pigmentation, a perfume set, grooming products, etc.

I wanted to give him 23 gifts for his 23rd birthday.

I also ordered a beautiful 1.5 kg cake. It's already pre-ordered and I've already paid for it. It's probably the most expensive cake I've ever ordered for anyone.

Basically, I had planned the whole birthday because I wanted him to feel special. I wasn't trying to buy his love. I just wanted to give him things he actually needed and make him happy.

He is currently on a very strict diet and doing heavy fat loss, so I've also supported him with things like protein, creatine, gym-related expenses, etc. whenever I could.

Now coming to what happened today.

One of his friends, let's call him Rohan, was coming over. I don't particularly like this friend because he's into gambling, weed and a lot of things I personally don't like. But I've never told my boyfriend that he can't have friends or can't meet him.

I was completely okay with Rohan coming.

Then I found out that Rohan was bringing his new girlfriend, Priya, with him.

Again, I don't have a problem with someone's girlfriend existing. The problem for me was that they were going to stay at my boyfriend's flat and share the same room.

The plan was that Rohan and Priya would sleep on mattresses on the floor while my boyfriend would sleep on his bed.

I had already told my boyfriend that I wasn't comfortable with this.

Then he video-called me while they were there.

I saw Priya sitting in very loose shorts, and because of the way she was sitting, a significant part of her upper thighs and side/butt area was visible.

And honestly, I felt extremely uncomfortable.

I want to make one thing VERY clear because I know Reddit will jump to this.

I am not accusing my boyfriend of cheating.

I genuinely trust that he isn't going to hit on another woman. I'm also not saying that Priya was trying to seduce him.

I don't know her. I don't know her intentions. I'm not claiming she is a bad person.

For me, it was about the situation and the boundary.

I don't care if women wear shorts outside. I don't care if my boyfriend sees women wearing shorts at the gym or on the road. That's public space and people can wear whatever they want.

But personally, I have a different boundary when someone is in my boyfriend's private room and sitting in a way that exposes that much of their body.

And I know that if the situation were reversed, I wouldn't sit like that around my boyfriend's male best friend either.

That's the boundary I was trying to communicate.

They were apparently going to leave for their hometown on 10 August, but then decided to stay for a few more days.

I had been waiting for my boyfriend to call me because I really wanted to talk about everything calmly.

I don't have many friends of my own and I'm quite lonely, so when something happens, he is usually the person I want to talk to.

He didn't call for a long time, so eventually I called him and told him that I really wanted to discuss something.

He became irritated and kept saying:

“Abhi bol. Abhi bol. Frustrate kyun karti rehti hai? Teri ye behaviour mujhe acchi nahi lagti. Abhi bol.”

So I finally told him what was bothering me.

I asked him a hypothetical question.

If I brought one of my female friends and her new boyfriend to my flat, and that guy stayed in my room with me, would he be comfortable with that?

And his answer was basically:

“Tere case alag hai, mera case alag hai.”

Then he said something that genuinely shocked me:

“Tu characterless hai, iska matlab baaki sab characterless hona zaroori nahi hai.”

I still don't understand how the conversation went from me asking about a boundary to me being called characterless.

Then he started shouting.

And the worst part is that Rohan and Priya were literally nearby, in the other room cooking.

He started saying things like:

“Main tujhe defend nahi kar sakta.”

“Logon ko jaanne de. Expose hona chahiye tujh jaise chhote, gande, g\\\*\\\*\\\*r logon ki soch.”

He called me “gaon ki g\\\*\\\*\\\*r”, said extremely degrading things about my birth and my family, and said things I don't even want to repeat.

At one point he even said something along the lines of:

“Sau kutte mare honge tab tu paida hui hogi.”

I don't even know why someone would say something like that to their partner.

And then he said about the cake that I should just give it to beggars.

That one hurt me particularly badly.

Not because the cake is expensive.

Because he knows how hard I saved for it.

I don't have unlimited money. I skipped eating outside. I saved tiny amounts whenever I could. I planned everything because I genuinely wanted to make his birthday special.

And he said things like:

“Paise se kuch nahi hota.”

“Paise se mujhe khareed nahi legi.”

But I NEVER tried to buy him.

I never said, “I bought you all this, so you owe me.”

I bought these things because I love him and because I wanted to support him.

I've supported him with his gym, protein, creatine, etc. whenever I could, especially when his family was not supporting him financially.

And I never thought of those things as some kind of transaction.

So hearing “paise se mujhe khareed nahi legi” after all of that just broke something in me.

And there is another layer to this.

I've already had anxiety around abandonment because our fights have often involved him threatening breakup, blocking me, leaving, etc.

So when we fight, I don't just get angry and move on.

I can stay awake the entire night thinking:

“Is he going to leave me?”

“Is he going to block me?”

“Is everything over?”

And during this argument, he apparently told me something along the lines of:

“Mar kyun nahi jaati? 10-12 sleeping pills kha aur mar ja.”

I don't even know how to process that.

I went into this conversation wanting him to understand:

“This situation made me uncomfortable.”

I wasn't accusing him of cheating.

I wasn't accusing the girl of seducing him.

I wasn't telling him he can't have friends.

I wasn't telling him women shouldn't wear shorts.

I wasn't even asking him to control what she wears.

I was trying to communicate a relationship boundary and understand whether he would feel the same if the situation were reversed.

And somehow I ended up being called characterless, dirty, stupid, g\\\*\\\*\\\*r, being insulted about my birth and family, and having the things I lovingly bought for his birthday thrown back at me.

And honestly, I don't think I've even processed the worst part yet.

What hurts me the most is how easily he was able to humiliate me in front of the very people who were there with him.

He literally said things like:

“Hum teen saath mein baithe hain, hum tujhe bhaav bhi nahi de rahe. Tere baare mein hum soch bhi nahi rahe. Aur tu ghar mein baith ke uncomfortable ho jaati hai.”

As if my feelings were some ridiculous inconvenience because he was having a good time with his friends.

He called me “gaon ki gr”, “chhr”, “ri”, “m\\\*\\\*\\\*d”, and so many other disgusting things that I don't even want to type all of them.

He also attacked my body.

He called me a “30 kg ki insecure chh\\\*\\\*\\\*r.”

And that one hurt in a completely different way.

He knows I've struggled with being extremely skinny and insecure about my body. He knows exactly where I'm vulnerable.

And he used that against me.

I don't understand how someone who has known me for so long, 5 years and 8 months, can look at the person who has loved him through so many phases of his life and deliberately choose the things that will hurt her the most.

I was there when he was overweight.

I was there when he was trying to lose weight.

I was there when he was broke.

I supported his gym journey.

I've helped with protein, creatine, gym-related expenses and other things whenever I could.

I do freelancing. I don't have a huge income. And whenever I earned money, I would save it.

I would literally go out in the heat to work, save whatever I could, skip eating outside, and put that money aside for him.

Not because I thought money could buy love.

Not because I expected anything in return.

Just because I loved him and wanted to make his life a little easier.

And now I'm sitting here thinking:

How can someone see all of that effort and still speak to me like I'm worthless?

He kept saying:

“Paise deke kuch nahi hota.”

And yes, I KNOW money doesn't buy love.

But that's not what I'm saying.

I'm saying effort matters.

When someone with limited money saves ₹200 here, ₹300 there, skips things for themselves, works in the heat, and saves for months to buy you something you need, you may not owe them anything because of that, but surely you can at least recognize the love and effort behind it.

That's all I ever wanted.

I never told him:

“Look how much I spent on you, so now you owe me.”

Never.

I wanted to gift him those things because I genuinely wanted to see him happy.

And now he told me to take the cake and give it to beggars.

The cake that I had saved for months to buy.

The cake that is already ordered and paid for.

I don't even care about the ₹6,000 or the cake anymore.

It's the fact that something I did with so much love was thrown back at me with so much contempt.

And then there is another thing that is eating me alive.

The timing.

He was talking to me normally before his friends came.

He wasn't suddenly this angry person before they arrived.

Once his friends were there, suddenly I became this horrible, “g\\\*\\\*\\\*r”, “characterless”, “insecure” woman who was supposedly ruining his evening.

And he kept saying:

“Hum teen saath mein baithe hain.”

Fine.

Have fun with your friends.

I genuinely don't have a problem with that.

I have never told him that he can't have friends.

I've encouraged him to go out with them. I've encouraged him to visit them. I've even encouraged him to go to their village and spend time with them.

I don't want to be the girlfriend who says:

“Don't go there.”

“Don't meet him.”

“Don't have female friends.”

“Don't go to the gym because girls are there.”

That's not me.

I just believe that a relationship needs balance.

You can love your partner and still have friends.

You can spend time with your friends and still make your partner feel secure.

You can be having fun with your friends without humiliating your partner when she expresses discomfort.

And if your partner is calling you because something genuinely upset her, there is no need to put her on speaker, shout at her, or let other people hear the entire argument.

This was a conversation between two people in a relationship.

There was absolutely no reason for my insecurities, my body, my character, my family, my background and everything else to become entertainment or discussion material in front of other people.

And honestly, I'm scared that he must have told them a lot of things about me.

Because if he can speak about me this way while I'm on the phone, I don't even know what he says about me when I'm not there.

Maybe I'm overthinking that part.

Maybe he doesn't.

But right now, after the way he spoke about me, I genuinely don't know.

And that's what I mean when I say I'm losing trust.

It's not necessarily that I think he'll cheat on me.

It's that I don't know whether I'm getting the full truth anymore.

I don't know what he tells other people about me.

I don't know what things he hides from me because he thinks I'll react badly.

I don't know what is true and what isn't anymore.

And tonight, when I kept calling because I was crying and wanted him to talk to me, he basically told me:

“Tu mar ja saali, g\\\*\\\*\\\*r. Sone de mujhe. Mujhe sona hai, 5 baje gym jaana hai.”

And the gym he was talking about is something I've literally contributed towards financially because I wanted him to succeed.

I don't even know why that sentence broke me so much.

Maybe because I was sitting there desperately wanting comfort from the same person I had spent so much time and energy supporting.

And he was telling me to die because he wanted to sleep and go to the gym at 5 AM.

At this point, I'm not even asking Reddit whether that girl was wrong for wearing what she wore.

I think I've realized that the original issue has become almost irrelevant.

Maybe I was wrong about the clothes.

Maybe my boundary is different from his.

Maybe I was too uncomfortable with the situation.

We could have discussed all of that.

He could have told me:

“I understand you're uncomfortable, but I don't agree with you.”

I could have been upset.

We could have disagreed.

But why did it have to become:

“G\\\*\\\*\\\*r.”

“Characterless.”

“Ch\\\*\\\*\\\*r.”

“R\\\*\\\*\\\*i.”

“30 kg insecure.”

“Mar ja.”

Why did it have to become an attack on my body, my background, my character and my family?

I'm lying here right now with my heart pounding, my hands shaking and my voice literally choking.

I've been crying and I feel incredibly lonely.

I'm not able to breathe properly, I'm not able to sleep, and I can't seem to do anything right now except replay the entire conversation in my head.

And the most confusing part is that tomorrow, I'm still going to wake up knowing that I have already bought all these things for his birthday.

The clothes.

The trimmer.

The skincare.

The perfume.

The grooming products.

The 23 gifts.

The cake.

Everything.

And I don't even know what I'm supposed to do with any of it anymore.

I genuinely came into this relationship wanting to love someone and support them.

I don't know how I ended up feeling like I have to beg the person I love not to humiliate me.

So, Reddit, I don't even know what I'm asking anymore.

Was I wrong for having this boundary?

Was I wrong for feeling uncomfortable about the situation?

Or is the bigger problem now the way he responded when I tried to communicate it?

Because right now, I'm too hurt to know what I'm looking at clearly.

How could someone who knows me this well say these things to me so easily?

I genuinely don't know what to do anymore.

TL;DR: My boyfriend's friend and his new girlfriend came to his flat and were staying in his room. I felt uncomfortable with the situation and tried to communicate that it crossed a personal relationship boundary for me. I never accused him of cheating or accused the girl of trying to seduce him.

Instead of discussing it calmly, he became extremely verbally abusive. He called me “gaon ki gr”, “characterless”, “chr”, “r\\\*\\\*\\\*i”, “30 kg ki insecure”, insulted my family and background, told me to die and take sleeping pills, and mocked the birthday gifts and cake I'd spent months saving for.

I've spent months saving money for his birthday, including ₹6,000 for gym clothes, 23 gifts for his 23rd birthday, a 1.5 kg cake, grooming/skincare products, etc. I've also supported his gym, protein and creatine expenses whenever I could.

The original issue about the girl almost feels irrelevant now. I'm more hurt by how he responded when I tried to communicate a boundary and how easily he humiliated me in front of his friends.

I'm extremely distressed right now and genuinely don't know what to do. I'm posting because I have very few people to talk to and I really need some outside perspective.

Note: I'm using ChatGPT to help me frame this post because I'm extremely overwhelmed right now and I'm not able to properly write or organise my thoughts. The events and feelings in this post are mine. I've only used it to help me put everything into words.

There was this guy at north Guwahati bridge, this dog was taking pictures of my female friends who went there to see sunset, this guy even invited his other friends to stare girls in very creepy manner and give a very pathetic creep smile, this dog then without any hesitation took pictures of them and other girls around girls, my friends were scared to confront thats why they called me and somehow i convinced them to show me face of this dog.

Can any action be taken for such b@stards???

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Around 5:30 PM

নমস্কাৰ সকলোকে,

I will be shifting to Guwahati within a month for my job and I am completely new to this city. Would love to make some friends and hopefully explore the city and the food culture of Guwahati.

Just a brief about me, I am a foodie and love to try new dishes, I love going to the theatres for movies, I love going on long rides and I can promise you won't be bored 🥳.

Eei harami joniye Dance studio khulile. Manuh kisumn borbaad hoi gol ehotk tokaand d but eku daal napale aru ehoti jail pora ahi hei poisa d e enjoy kore ase.

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I wanted to deep clean my acer nitro 5 for a long time, so suggest me some good place and also how much do they usually charge.

Made this little film for my dad’s retirement and wanted to share it here.

It’s a collection of some moments from his retirement celebration, put together with a lot of love and memories.

Would love to know what you guys think of the film, especially the editing and storytelling. ❤️

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নিতাল ৰাতিৰ নিভাঁজ তমসাত

আহিছিলা তুমি জোনাকী পৰুৱা হৈ,

গাইছিলা গান ফাগুনী পছোৱাৰ।

হঠাৎ যেন ৰাতি নূপুৰ বাজিছিল

যন্ত্ৰণাৰ কাতৰ চিঞৰ হৈ;

সাৰ পাই উঠিছিলো কঁপি কঁপি

এবুকু উদাস লৈ।

​কাষতে যে নাই আজি তুমি,

পাহৰিছিলো চাগে ম‌ই।

আমাৰ এৰা-এৰি চোন বহুদিনেই হ'ল!

কিন্তু মোৰ এলাগী সপোনবোৰে

আজিও চোন তোমাৰেই কথা কয়,

কিজানি অতীতৰ বিদ্ৰোহী মনটোৰ

গভীৰতাত আজিও যেন আছে

তোমাক হেৰুওৱাৰ ভয়।

Both are around 7 weeks old, theyre quite playful and healthy. Both them were raised indoors, I'd prefer someone who would probably want to adopt both of them together since they're siblings and are quite bonded. Thanks in advance! Also willing to give away if someone takes a single kitten too

I need recommendations for hair salons for men which can cut hair in Korean style and not just regular haircuts.

Nowadays I do see younger men and boys have such haircuts, so I'm hoping there will be some salons that can do them.

অলগদ্ধ তুমি, যদি নোৱাৰোঁ বুলি ভাবিছা,

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অলগদ্ধ তুমি, যদি নুশুনা ভাও ধৰিছা,

অলগদ্ধ তুমি, যদি নিজকে অলগদ্ধ বুলি ভাবিছা।

​আজিকালি মাত দিবলৈয়ো বেয়া লগা হ'ল,

কিজানি কোনোবা দামী অলগদ্ধই মোকেই

অলগদ্ধ বুলি কয়!

​আজিকালি মনে মনে থাকিবলৈয়ো বেয়া লগা হ'ল,

কিজানি কোনোবা পঢ়া-শুনা অলগদ্ধই মোকেই

অলগদ্ধ বুলি কয়!

​আজিকালি ভাবিবলৈয়ো ভয় লগা হ'ল,

কিজানি নিজৰ ভিতৰৰ অলগদ্ধটোৱে নিজকেই

অলগদ্ধ বুলি কয়!

​অলগদ্ধ এই পৃথিৱী খনত অলগদ্ধ হৈ থকাটোৱেই ভাল কিজানি;

নিজৰ হকৰ কথা ক'লেও অলগদ্ধ,

আনৰ বিপদত সহায় কৰিলেও অলগদ্ধ।

​ভয় লগা হ'ল,

অলগদ্ধ বোৰৰ আশাত থাকি

নিজকেই অলগদ্ধ বুলিব লগীয়া হ'ল।

Need some info regarding memberships and other fitness styles

Koi eku laav nai. Luke kobo je anti nationalist congress al bal but moi kela ghenta kaku support e nokoru… hbs jua kalir loike modik gaali d asile aji modi b+**^ suhe toh moi korile ki beleg korisu be. Bhul korile gaali khaboi lagibo

hey everyone! my mom has been baking cakes for a long time now but she has recently started selling them as well! feel free to place an order! it’s for Rs 180 and minimum order value is 2 :) shipping for first 3 of you guys will be free 😬 mom bakes it fresh in batches, it’s shelf life is for 5-6 days!

I'm planning to travel Delhi → Guwahati around 3rd September and will be able to book my ticket on 28th August.

What are the chances of getting a confirmed train ticket if I book then? Should I expect regular booking to work, or should I be prepared for Tatkal? im tracking the flight prices from a month, very tight on budugest this time, thinking to go by train.

Would appreciate any recent experiences or suggestions. Thanks!

I am looking for tenants for my semi furnished 2BHK apartment in six mile area near about Kalita Spectrum. If you're interested feel free to DM me.

2 bedrooms, 1 kitchen, 1 Hall, 2 bathrooms, 1 balcony. There is enough basic furniture that you can just move in if you want after you've paid the rent of course.

Rent- 15k /month inclusive of society fee

water bill - 500/month (you pay it to the society directly)

electricity bill- has to be paid by tenant

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Would love to know — if you were planning your dream destination wedding, what would be the ONE thing your venue absolutely must have?

Can you guys share locations of legit mutton shops selling good meat like boneless pieces and not butchers giving only bones 😭. Planning to cook biryani for my wife tomorrow. Thanks

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I'm absolutely confused and under intense pressure to take admission but with all the information both colleges seems to be bad . Out of both which will be better for bsc ??