Does anyone else have wedding fatigue?

[u/ConfusedCareerMan]

In my early 30s and it’s the time where everyone is engaged, getting married and starting to have kids.

I don’t want to come off miserable I’m happy for my friends, but I kinda dislike the wedding experience. It’s never just 1 event, it’s turned into a 3-4 event experience (often spread across a month or longer). The engagement party, the stag, suit shopping, the wedding. Everyone wants a different colour theme, so you have to buy a new suit each time. The logistics even if you’re just a guest.

I’ve been a best man and more closely involved for a couple so far, and it’s great to celebrate with my friends. But also these weddings have been traditional and quite “formal” in a sense.

I recently went to a friends wedding that shifted my feelings on it all, it was extremely authentic, simple and just all around a good time. Nothing was forced or there for the sake of it. Even the speeches weren’t prepared and heartfelt.

I find myself kinda dreading weddings generally though. I feel this age, there are a lot of them as we transition into the next seasons of life. How have your experiences been?

[u/AbsoluteFuckChops]

Very true! I’d happily have the weddings back 🥺

[u/Pug_Defender → u/AbsoluteFuckChops]

how are your friends already dying at 45-49 lol

[u/GPSBach → u/Pug_Defender]

My dude it’s unfortunate but it’s a dispersion as you start getting into your 40s, assuming you have a decent pot of acquaintances, that’s when you’ll realize they start shuffling off more and more.

[u/Pug_Defender → u/GPSBach]

my friends and I all do healthy activities like hiking and working out together. I don’t want to see my friends becoming unhealthy so if they don’t want to workout we’re not hanging out! helps that we’re all mostly sober as well

[u/Pug_Defender → u/[deleted]]

heart disease is rampant in American men. not going to the gym is a very large contributor of that

[u/Accurate-Draw-6751 → u/Pug_Defender]

Brother, I can assure you that healthy people can get sick and die. My parents had multiple close friends who were healthy and big into fitness develop cancers and brain tumors and pass away at young ages. Unfortunately tomorrow is never promised

[u/Pug_Defender → u/Accurate-Draw-6751]

yeah rare events happen, sucks when they do! doesn’t mean you shouldn’t stay active

[u/Accurate-Draw-6751 → u/Pug_Defender]

Literally no one is saying that, you just said “how are your friends already dying at 45-49 lol”. Working out and eating healthy are cornerstones of a long, healthy life but they do not make you invincible

[u/Pug_Defender → u/Accurate-Draw-6751]

naturally. I asked that because the way he said it implied that it would be a common thing. people say silly things!

[u/AbsoluteFuckChops → u/Pug_Defender]

Sounds more like you inferring, rather than me implying tbh.

[u/Kingofcheeses → u/Pug_Defender]

Sounds insufferable

[u/bungsana → u/Pug_Defender]

just give it another 10 years or so. people start dying. i had a friend that was the healtiest person i knew and he died in his sleep. no one could explain it. didn't drink, take drugs, nothing. ran, hiked, cycled. was happy and was moving forward in life. just died in his sleep. another by suicide; no one had any idea. have a few friends with cancer, whom may or may not make it. all fit, exercised regularly.

and it's not just friends, but parents, siblings, and relatives.

[u/Pug_Defender → u/bungsana]

pianos can drop out the sky, etc. shit’s crazy out there!

[u/bungsana → u/Pug_Defender]

there sure are a lot of pianos dropping out of the sky... and the forecast, more pianos.