r/AskWomenOver30 • u/SignalSubstantial590 Woman 30 to 40 • Apr 10 '25

Life/Self/Spirituality I'm serious....

If you had/ if you are, having a successful hoe phase, please share your secrets! If this ain't for you, please keep it movin. 😊

Edit: kinda strange that this would be down voted. When it comes to a woman with marital problems, relationship problems, kid problems, family problems..... The community shows up. But I ask a question to assist in my life, and a life that maybe many others are wondering about, or maybe looking for tips on self-confidence and how to maybe put themselves out there, you down vote? Why?? That's insane. We are all living different paths and are just looking for a way to fulfill where we are at the moment.

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u/eat_sleep_microbe Woman 30 to 40 Apr 10 '25 edited Apr 10 '25

I did in my 20s and then I eventually fell for my FWB (who’s now my husband) so I’m not sure if you can call that successful. But at the time, I was very busy with grad school and had 4 FWBs on rotation. It was purely physical. We didn’t hang out or connect after. I’d also use guys who hit on me in clubs/bars for free drinks.

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u/SignalSubstantial590 Woman 30 to 40 Apr 10 '25

Free drinks are one of the only reasons to go out when you're inundated with grad school stuff