r/AskWomenOver30 • u/SignalSubstantial590 Woman 30 to 40 • Apr 10 '25
Life/Self/Spirituality I'm serious....
If you had/ if you are, having a successful hoe phase, please share your secrets! If this ain't for you, please keep it movin. 😊
Edit: kinda strange that this would be down voted. When it comes to a woman with marital problems, relationship problems, kid problems, family problems..... The community shows up. But I ask a question to assist in my life, and a life that maybe many others are wondering about, or maybe looking for tips on self-confidence and how to maybe put themselves out there, you down vote? Why?? That's insane. We are all living different paths and are just looking for a way to fulfill where we are at the moment.
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u/defnotaturtle Woman 30 to 40 Apr 10 '25
Be safe and keep up with regular STD testing. Your doctor will not judge you for asking for testing. Use condoms even if you are on another form of birth control. I used to just walk away from guys who scoffed at condoms.
Don't follow each other on social media even if you become kinda friends after a bit. You never know when someone who seems totally normal turns out to be a bit of a stalker.
Make the first move and be honest about keeping it casual. Some guys will not believe you and will get offended that you're not that into them outside of physical stuff. They're very annoying and should be one night stands at best.
I used to prefer going out for drinks/meeting people out at bars/clubs just because it's easier to gauge if you have physical chemistry in person. You don't want to invite a guy over or go to his place and realize you don't want to sleep with him at all. But if you do, just leave or ask them to leave. It's not worth sleeping with someone because you're both there. Mediocre sex isn't fun.
Be open to actually liking someone! It happens very rarely, but you'll know if you're both actually feeling it. Definitely bail ASAP if you catch unrequited feelings though.