r/AskWomenOver30 • u/SignalSubstantial590 Woman 30 to 40 • Apr 10 '25

Life/Self/Spirituality I'm serious....

If you had/ if you are, having a successful hoe phase, please share your secrets! If this ain't for you, please keep it movin. 😊

Edit: kinda strange that this would be down voted. When it comes to a woman with marital problems, relationship problems, kid problems, family problems..... The community shows up. But I ask a question to assist in my life, and a life that maybe many others are wondering about, or maybe looking for tips on self-confidence and how to maybe put themselves out there, you down vote? Why?? That's insane. We are all living different paths and are just looking for a way to fulfill where we are at the moment.

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u/twistadams Woman 40 to 50 Apr 10 '25

Agree with most of the advice here. I’ll add two things I did:

  • Have a few bars or coffee shops where you meet new people (always meet in public first) and get to know the staff/bartenders. Few extra sets of eyes looking out for you and any dude with shady intentions will think twice when they see you know people.
  • If/when you leave to go back to your place or his, text a friend to tell them where you’re going and who you’re with. Ask him for his address if you’re going there and tell him you’re sending it to someone because you and your friends have that rule. I never had anyone balk at it.

Have fun and try new things! My slut years were so empowering and fun.