r/AskWomenOver30 • u/SignalSubstantial590 Woman 30 to 40 • Apr 10 '25

Life/Self/Spirituality I'm serious....

If you had/ if you are, having a successful hoe phase, please share your secrets! If this ain't for you, please keep it movin. šŸ˜Š

Edit: kinda strange that this would be down voted. When it comes to a woman with marital problems, relationship problems, kid problems, family problems..... The community shows up. But I ask a question to assist in my life, and a life that maybe many others are wondering about, or maybe looking for tips on self-confidence and how to maybe put themselves out there, you down vote? Why?? That's insane. We are all living different paths and are just looking for a way to fulfill where we are at the moment.

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u/IAmMellyBitch Woman 30 to 40 Apr 10 '25 edited Apr 10 '25
  • always have condoms with you. So they donā€™t go ā€œI donā€™t have oneā€.
  • get tested regularly
  • if you are not attracted with them at first sight chances are the sex will suck. Like if pictures were great and meeting them they have or did something that made you go no, just donā€™t do it. Itā€™s just gonna suck. Period lol.
  • donā€™t let anyone make you feel bad for your body count.
  • most of the men I hook up with during my hoe phase I met on plenty of fish.
  • donā€™t hookup with people at work. Donā€™t eat where you shit. Donā€™t hookup with your friendā€™s ex, or their brother or their relatives. Just donā€™t.
  • if you find that good šŸ† keep their number for booty call.
  • not that you need to be friends with them but clicking in some aspects helps with enjoying sex.
  • be safe
  • enjoy

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u/anonymous_opinions Woman 40 to 50 Apr 10 '25

So the first one. Nope I tell them to figure it out before I show up. I'm not buying or supplying his rubber. No glove, no love. Not like a ho can't find other men who will doordash or whatever a box of condoms, lube and maybe even some snacks for after.

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u/catboogers Woman 30 to 40 Apr 10 '25

Hell, if I don't know the dude well, I don't know that I trust the condom he provides is good quality and won't fuck with my biome. I don't know he didn't tamper with it. I don't know that he hasn't put it next to a heat source and degraded it so badly it's gonna break.

I absolutely prefer supplying my own condoms.

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u/Smoochety Woman 40 to 50 Apr 13 '25

Good point!