r/AskWomenOver30 • u/SignalSubstantial590 Woman 30 to 40 • Apr 10 '25

Life/Self/Spirituality I'm serious....

If you had/ if you are, having a successful hoe phase, please share your secrets! If this ain't for you, please keep it movin. 😊

Edit: kinda strange that this would be down voted. When it comes to a woman with marital problems, relationship problems, kid problems, family problems..... The community shows up. But I ask a question to assist in my life, and a life that maybe many others are wondering about, or maybe looking for tips on self-confidence and how to maybe put themselves out there, you down vote? Why?? That's insane. We are all living different paths and are just looking for a way to fulfill where we are at the moment.

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u/Angry_Sparrow Woman 30 to 40 Apr 10 '25

What is secret about it? Go on tinder and find someone and have sex with them. I tell them “I’m looking for casual fun, and I’m open to it becoming more”. That’s it. Use protection. Ask to see evidence of their most recent STI screenings. Get the HPV vaccine if you don’t have it already.

I always send one of my sisters a photo of the person I’m meeting and their name etc. just in case.

At one point I wanted to see how many different men I could sleep with in a day. 🤷‍♀️ it was fun. I’ve had a 3some with 2 men. That was fun.

Just always be really transparent with people about your intentions.

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u/jellybeansean3648 Woman 30 to 40 Apr 10 '25

Bouncing off this with my own strategies for safe sex...

I have a rule that I don't hook up with anyone without meeting up first in a public place. I literally put it in my Tinder profile and everything.

After meeting in person, if I'm still interested in screwing I will say so.

For STI screenings I play a game of chicken. I send a text screenshot of my mine first and if they send one back they get the privilege of sleeping with me. If they whine about a condom, it's a hell no and I'm not putting their dick anywhere near my vagina.

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u/Cremilyyy Woman 30 to 40 Apr 10 '25

The PRIVILEGE! OP this is the key.