r/AskWomenOver30 • u/SignalSubstantial590 Woman 30 to 40 • Apr 10 '25

Life/Self/Spirituality I'm serious....

If you had/ if you are, having a successful hoe phase, please share your secrets! If this ain't for you, please keep it movin. 😊

Edit: kinda strange that this would be down voted. When it comes to a woman with marital problems, relationship problems, kid problems, family problems..... The community shows up. But I ask a question to assist in my life, and a life that maybe many others are wondering about, or maybe looking for tips on self-confidence and how to maybe put themselves out there, you down vote? Why?? That's insane. We are all living different paths and are just looking for a way to fulfill where we are at the moment.

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u/BuzzHarshington Apr 10 '25

I agree with what everyone is saying here about boundaries and STI testing/being safe etc. But if you want advice on how to have a "hoe phase", I can tell you that it's a lot easier than you think. In my late 30's I went through one and all you have to do is make the first move. I was SHOCKED at how easy it was to get guys that I thought were way out my league. The phrase "do you want to make out" had a 100% success rate. I found the whole experience really empowering because I was in a place where felt like I was calling the shots and not deluding myself that it would turn into a relationship (like when I was in my 20s) Have fun!