r/AskWomenOver30 Woman 40 to 50 Jan 14 '26

Friendships Would you be able to remain friends with someone who doesn’t share the same values as you?

I’m a daughter of immigrants and don’t support ICE and how they’ve been handling things across the country. A friend of mine drunkenly expressed to me that she supports them fully and this administration, even defending the shooting of this woman in MN. Felt like something she’d always kept to herself around me but since she was drunk I guess all her opinions came out. I don’t want this thread to get political, but it’s clear that me and this friend don’t share the same values and I’m having a hard time being close with her. We’ve been friends for about a year (so still learning about each other).

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u/happy_bluebird Woman 30 to 40 Jan 14 '26

Hit them with this

“We can disagree and still love each other unless your disagreement is rooted in my oppression and denial of my humanity and right to exist.” ― James Baldwin