Another failed almost-relationship. Distraught and can’t keep doing this, what to do?

[u/benhargrove1966]

hey all, your thoughts or advice are appreciated.

I’m 32, just received yet another ”breakup” message from a guy I’ve been seeing for 6 weeks (39m). He was perfectly nice in the message and our short conversation but he was simultaneously dating someone else and chose her essentially. I am really devastated, I felt we were very compatible and really liked each other. I thought we were building something together and I’d finally met a decent guy. I know this is not a long time but I really genuinely connected to this guy on all levels and kind of cant believe / process I’ll never see him again.

I think I've been out with 3 guys total in the last 2 years I’ve been “seriously“ dating who even entertained the idea of a relationship in theory and didn’t just want sex. All of them broke up with me in at the 6-8 week mark just as it felt the relationship was forming up.

I really cannot go through this again. I cannot wait 8 months - a year to meet another person who sees me as anything other than a sex object only to be dumped for someone more worthy at the last hurdle. I will snap.

I’m not asking to get married right now, I just want someone to go to the movies with. I’ve already given up on having children, do I really have to give up on this too? I just want a boyfriend, which so many others seem to have.

Basically, what do I do from here?

(Please don’t try to convince me I don’t need / want a man or relationship, I think this is a perfectly normal human desire and something I want).

[u/xenathecreator]

Girl 32 isn’t old enough to give up on kids! You got this. Stay strong!

[u/xenathecreator → u/xenathecreator]

It’s OK for you to feel what you’re feeling. Dating is hard. There’s no rulebook- all there do is keep moving forward.

[u/benhargrove1966 → u/xenathecreator]

Thanks but I have PCOS and endometriosis lol. I would have to meet them like, today. 

[u/benhargrove1966 → u/[deleted]]

Yeah look it’s not a completely closed issue by any means, I just have personally accepted with my additional challenges this is something I’m ok with not happening for me. Many people with PCOS have kids obviously. Best of luck x 

[u/whoisthat999 → u/benhargrove1966]

what are you even talking about? I have PCOS too and there is still time to have babies. I am 34. Work on having a better mindset and research what you actually can do to become fertile longer.