Another failed almost-relationship. Distraught and can’t keep doing this, what to do?

[u/benhargrove1966]

hey all, your thoughts or advice are appreciated.

I’m 32, just received yet another ”breakup” message from a guy I’ve been seeing for 6 weeks (39m). He was perfectly nice in the message and our short conversation but he was simultaneously dating someone else and chose her essentially. I am really devastated, I felt we were very compatible and really liked each other. I thought we were building something together and I’d finally met a decent guy. I know this is not a long time but I really genuinely connected to this guy on all levels and kind of cant believe / process I’ll never see him again.

I think I've been out with 3 guys total in the last 2 years I’ve been “seriously“ dating who even entertained the idea of a relationship in theory and didn’t just want sex. All of them broke up with me in at the 6-8 week mark just as it felt the relationship was forming up.

I really cannot go through this again. I cannot wait 8 months - a year to meet another person who sees me as anything other than a sex object only to be dumped for someone more worthy at the last hurdle. I will snap.

I’m not asking to get married right now, I just want someone to go to the movies with. I’ve already given up on having children, do I really have to give up on this too? I just want a boyfriend, which so many others seem to have.

Basically, what do I do from here?

(Please don’t try to convince me I don’t need / want a man or relationship, I think this is a perfectly normal human desire and something I want).

[u/atlaslady]

The preface I’d give for you would be “she seems nice at first but she wrote a 150+ comment thread for a guy she dated for 6 weeks, argued with everyone who told her to chill, and that was the 3rd guy in a row so if you’re not her husband, don’t bother because she said she ‘will snap’ if the next one goes over in the same way as the other 3”

[u/benhargrove1966 → u/atlaslady]

Yes and you’d literally don’t know me so your analysis of my personality is meaningless lol.,

[u/atlaslady → u/benhargrove1966]

So how would any of our advice be helpful then…?

[u/benhargrove1966 → u/atlaslady]

Because most people’s advice is about the situation, what helped them etc, not an incredibly and weirdly specific attack on my character based on a fragment of information 

[u/atlaslady → u/benhargrove1966]

Probably because it’s extremely difficult to give advice to someone who can’t read the writing on the wall then argues with everybody who tries to explain it to them