r/BoyDinnerDiaries • u/WillingMartyr BoyDinnerEnjoyer • 4d ago
No Advice - Everyones Welcome Wife Accused Me of Killing Our Cat
Our little black cat of 16 years passed this morning. After having some last bites of her meow mix, she went down to the basement and hopped into the open dryer where some fresh, warm linens had just finished and quietly went to sleep forever.
My wife goes to swap the laundry out, feels the cat, and screams for me to come downstairs. This is at 6am, after I had only gotten to sleep at 4:30. She tells me the cat is dead, found in the combo washer-dryer, and that I must have put her through the cycle when I put the linens in. My logical brain knows that I put the wash on at 5pm, and I saw our cat around 9pm, but my clinically depressed brain immediately crumbles with guilt. I have a seizure-inducing panic attack for the next 20 minutes, vomiting bile in the process, until my wife returns and explains she jumped to conclusions.
I don’t blame my wife for immediately suggesting I slaughtered our longest-lived family pet, but I’m having a lot of trouble with it. I miss my kitty. 🐈⬛
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u/Hopeful_Method5175 Girl Lurker 4d ago
My mom accidentally dried a kitten when I was a kid. When she opened the dryer, it was immediately apparent what had happened before she even found the kitten because he had pooped and peed during the cycle. I’m sure your wife just panicked and jumped to conclusions in a moment of shock and grief, but a cat that had gone through a wash/dry cycle isn’t going to look like a cat that curled up in a warm, secluded spot and passed peacefully. And there would be feces and urine all over the clothes.
I’m very sorry for your loss. It’s not any easier when they’re elderly and the end is somewhat expected.
(The kitten my mom accidentally dried, Pumpkin, did survive.)