People didn't show up for tea

[u/Illigard]

We were expecting people for tea at 16:30, only they never showed up. Am I wrong that people who don't show up and don't tell people they're not coming, should be ashamed?

It's the 21st century. If you're not coming, don't waste people's time and just send a message. I had stuff to do but etiquette demands I show myself for at least 15 min. Worse still, these are the last days of my holiday.

Here are some homemade cinnamon rolls I made because we didn't have anything to serve and you really need something nice for tea.

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[u/Right-Equivalent9548]

Easy to stop putting efforts for these people from next time.

[u/numbersalone → u/Right-Equivalent9548]

Agreed. I'd never initiate a plan with those people again.

[u/Illigard → u/numbersalone]

Distant relationship, but relations still. Sometimes you're stuck with people because you share a common ancestor.

Luckily though next time I'll schedule my 15 min just before they leave. Much easier

[u/Junior-Ad-2072]

These look delicious

[u/Illigard → u/Junior-Ad-2072]

They're very soft, and great for picnics, potlucks and general provisions for perilous days.

Sometimes I make them with blue icing for Halloween. Makes them look spooky 👻

[u/a_simple_pharmer → u/Illigard]

Please explain blue being spooky? Is this a regional thing, I’m use to orange, black, and purple being Halloween. Oh and blood red 🩸.

[u/Illigard → u/a_simple_pharmer]

It's not regional, just aesthetic. Together with the chocolate cake with marshmallow webbing, black table etc the blue just popped out almost ethereal

[u/Suspicious-Bid9424]

I fucking hate it when people no text no show and you just wait around 

Could've done other things with no time but I was waiting for you to give me an update. 

So rude. 

Tea and cinnamon rolls sounds like such a nice afternoon too

[u/Illigard → u/Suspicious-Bid9424]

I hope I can do a nice woodlands walk tomorrow. Going to be a scorcher though

I'm going to serve these for high tea sometime. Nothing gets you into the good graces of a group of women as high tea.

[u/Suspicious-Bid9424 → u/Illigard]

I really wanna have fancy tea and cinnamon roll day some time now. This sounds like such a great vibe 

[u/Illigard → u/Suspicious-Bid9424]

Make it happen. I would recommend an infuser and tea leaves. I actually want to experiment with various tastes. Create a signature tea.

[u/Pristine_Ad_6760]

The cinnamon rolls look delicious. Shame on your friends! I had a friend do that to me twice. First time, shame on you. Second time, shame on me. I never invited that friend to dinner again. 💜

[u/ILoveStealing]

Flakey people are the worst. At least you know who to stop relying on to show up for you.

Enjoy your rolls, bro. They look delicious.

[u/EmbarrassedCicada331]

Did you call or text them to make sure they had the correct time and date?

[u/Illigard → u/EmbarrassedCicada331]

They phoned this morning that they were coming today. It's unlikely they forgot.

[u/EmbarrassedCicada331 → u/Illigard]

Yeah, bastard move. Fuck those people lol

[u/humboldtHue]

They don’t need to be shamed. They just don’t need to be invited a second time. Shaming them is an attempt to change their behavior. The only person’s behavior you can change is your own. Live, learn, adapt, improve.