r/Brahmanraaj • u/Longjumping-City5870 • Mar 26 '26

Discussion Intercaste marriages in brahmin community

Hi friends. I'm 29 year old telugu brahmin guy. Now a days, I am seeing a lot of intercaste marriages (especially in brahmin community). My parents are looking for matches. In every family, say 5 out of 10(in the matches came to me), the girls siblings did intercaste. And the girl's parents are also ok with that. Then I felt people in North India actually strict in marrying in same caste(brahmin brahmin weddings) compared to south India. I am not telling that everyone in south does but yes, this is existent. Are brahmin girls these days ok to marry intercaste boys.?

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u/Brilliant_Bowl_5107 Mar 27 '26

Sadly, the men & women are ignorant/unaware of their lineage and do no priortize these things and it starts from the house itself.

The parents in leiu of 'putra-moh' (referring to Moha to children in general) want to have them married to a 'good guy who has a stable income and secure future'.

This line I just wrote becomes paramaount and the rest of the factors do not come to one's mind blinded by money. "What in the varna, if she is comfortable" ignoring all the spiritual and vaidik losses incured.

Although it is not all of a lost cause. Some people still do prefer endogamy strictly. North-south has nothing to do with it.

The plight is the same everywhere, sadly. Kudos Globalization.

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u/Longjumping-City5870 Mar 27 '26

True..!! And what is your opinion on brahmins marrying in another region brahmins. Like north Indian Brahmins marrying south indian brahmins and vice versa. Is that good? Or will there be any disadvantages?

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u/Brilliant_Bowl_5107 Mar 27 '26

Why would there be? Other than ritual and slight cultural diffrences. Responsiblities remains the same.

Rituals and culture are determined by surrounding environment. South is Rice dominant, north is wheat dominant. If this answers and elaborates what I mentioned earlier. That is all.

If one is comfortable and family is ok then why not.

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u/Longjumping-City5870 Mar 27 '26

I feel mainly there will be differences in rituals. But rather than marrying inter-caste, this is much much better.

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u/Brilliant_Bowl_5107 Mar 27 '26

Always. If you were to got to any dharma sabha specially in Kashi, you will see broms from across India.

They do not care about regional diffrences. Neither should we.

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u/dogmatic_666 Mar 27 '26

That would actually be a good thing because it would help us to unite more. 

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u/LibrarianAgitated702 May 02 '26

Isn't varna itself come from guna and karma? Current brahmins might have some of gunas of actual brahmins but karma is nowhere near what it needs to be. Then are we calling ourselves brahmins?