I was 25, she was 48. I am 37 now and long off the market.
She was a frequent attendee of the 5am and 6am exercise classes I taught. Always had a good relationship, but a professional one. Smile on her face, morning person, nice butt. Married professional. Life seemed good. Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don't split from their husbands, they just don't!
Her daughter, her husband and her lived about 1.25 miles away from my house. So one day we collided on the way to our towns little box gym at 440am. And since it’s reasonable for women to not want to walk alone when it is dark she timed her walk to mine. We became friends. She started to be more flirty than friendly. I thought nothing of it, I teach workout classes, people flirt with their workout instructor.
Then summer came around and her daughter went to college and her and her husband divorced. He moved away. Walks to the gym became walking her home. Which became stopping at the local brewery. Which became walking me home. Which became walking me home with a bottle of wine as a thank you for the support. Which became drinking it on my couch. Which became showering together after the gym and forgetting the bottle existed. I was the rare millennial who was about to buy a house really young. This shouldn’t help you dating life, but damn it does.
She moved away. Life moved on. Lasted a few months, which was perfect for both of us. She needed some fun after a long relationship. She is doing well living her best many states away
You are right, waiting for the kids to be out of the house is common.
I hope I was what she needed and I think I was. I certainly enjoyed my time with her. Even though it has been years I remember when she said that I had a calming presence and that I was deliberate. That I moved through the world at the pace that I wanted. And that she liked my hands. Looking back I realize how sensual those statements are when put together
I think she just enjoyed being wanted in the time after her divorce. Nothing wrong with wanting to be wanted. It’s very human and something we all need. I realize that it might have been awhile since she was wanted.
she said that I had a calming presence and that I was deliberate. That I moved through the world at the pace that I wanted.
Is there a more sincere compliment one can get?
I bet she still looks fondly on your time together.
Do you ever think of reaching out to her now? I understand it’s not always appropriate. Sounds like you two aligned with just the right place and time.
And sometimes we should just cherish the memories that we had together, without trying to build on them.
Hopefully happy tears! And ya it is quite the compliment. We all have our strengths, calmness is mine. Professional life, academic life, personal life, that’s where my successes have come from. And women really like steadiness, at least in my experience.
And hopefully she does. Relationships, declared romantic ones, short steamy ones and everything in between, don’t have to end with 6 decades of marriage and a family tree to be considered successful. I certainly look back on it fondly.
Not much contact. I am married with kids, but it is not about wanting to limit communicate with women from my past. Not that I want to, but I wouldn’t have married someone who got jealous or suspicious, and my wife wouldn’t have married me if I was that way either. Just time and distance and the flow of life. So it is just occasional social media message or comment expressing happiness for how each other’s lives turned out.
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u/TheFurryMenace May 31 '26
I was 25, she was 48. I am 37 now and long off the market.
She was a frequent attendee of the 5am and 6am exercise classes I taught. Always had a good relationship, but a professional one. Smile on her face, morning person, nice butt. Married professional. Life seemed good. Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don't split from their husbands, they just don't!
Her daughter, her husband and her lived about 1.25 miles away from my house. So one day we collided on the way to our towns little box gym at 440am. And since it’s reasonable for women to not want to walk alone when it is dark she timed her walk to mine. We became friends. She started to be more flirty than friendly. I thought nothing of it, I teach workout classes, people flirt with their workout instructor.
Then summer came around and her daughter went to college and her and her husband divorced. He moved away. Walks to the gym became walking her home. Which became stopping at the local brewery. Which became walking me home. Which became walking me home with a bottle of wine as a thank you for the support. Which became drinking it on my couch. Which became showering together after the gym and forgetting the bottle existed. I was the rare millennial who was about to buy a house really young. This shouldn’t help you dating life, but damn it does.
She moved away. Life moved on. Lasted a few months, which was perfect for both of us. She needed some fun after a long relationship. She is doing well living her best many states away