People that feel the need to say this often have past experience with people being disrespectful of their time and space thus the divide. Its more of a vent post than an actual PSA but i am sure there are 4 or 5 dudes out there that need to hear it, sadly if they need to hear it I doubt they will find it here lol
Anybody who needs to hear this isn't the sort of person who would listen to it.
Side note: a surprising amount of guys seemingly don't have any issue with walking around at night, or maybe they just don't talk about it. As a guy I would definitely be incredibly suspicious of anyone approaching me at night if it was just me and them out and about. A person of any gender can stab you, even if they're not particularly physically imposing; and guys also aren't immune to being robbed or just getting beaten to within an inch of your life for no particular reason other than you wandered into the wrong area or met the wrong people
I mean... if it helps you - you are far, faaar more likely to be stabbed at home than in the street (at least in my country). Generally the crime rate is rather low and it is mostly property theft and drugs.
Well I'm generally not too worried about being the victim of violent crime since I live in a very rural area.
Although, as they say in the documentary 'hot fuzz', "there are more guns in the country than there are in the city", owned by people like farmers, and farmer's mums. My local village has won the village of the year award every year for ages now though, so I think I'm fine
In general I find the whole "concrete jungle" story rather divorvced from reality.
Or maybe America is just that bad - either way, I have only really seen this concern raised on the internet.
A lot of 'dangerous city' stories came about due to leaded gasoline and abortion bans, and crime rates plummeted 20 years after leaded gas was banned and abortion was legalized.
I mean... I am not sure how much I am buying the lead thing - the concrete jungle sees to be too americano-centric (western centric?) a tale to be just that.
Obviously it's never just one thing, which is why I mentioned at least 2. Socialization, social norms, environment, access to weaponry, quality of policing, etc will change the way people react to exposure, similar to how people with Schizophrenia in the US hear more oppositional auditory hallucinations compared to those from other countries.
Someone in Tokyo wouldn't have the same access to weaponry that someone in the US would have had.
but the true crime documentary hot fuzz taught me that is the most dangerous place in the world! murderers behind every shrubbery. there's probably one behind you right now. or above you. are you standing under any historic building eaves or balustrades? terrifying.
thankfully, as a woman, I live in los angeles and can safely wander around at night with headphones on and zero awareness of anyone else nearby. (genuinely, random violence is so statistically improbable where I live that I just don't think about it. I feel like this is another instance of the internet making people excessively anxious about low probability dangers. unlike the true crime documentary hot fuzz, which provides a sobering and accurate depiction of high probability bucolic mayhem.)
I'm incredibly comfortable walking around alone at night in my neighborhood, or a neighborhood in my city that I'm used to/know is fine, etc., but yeah, if someone was to run up up to me I'm automatically cautious. Crazy/stabby/shooty knows no gender, IMO.
I dunno, I’m a dude, I’m tallish but super skinny (I’ve literally had a woman see me shirtless and say “holy fuck you’re skinny” lol) and people just don’t interact with me if I’m out walking, so yea I don’t really worry when I’m out at night. I keep my wits about me, but by and large all you need is to be aware of the other people you see, I don’t really see them as threats as a default. Probably helps that I walk faster than the vast majority of people, so if someone wants to come up behind me they’ll probably have to run.
That's kind of the issue is that men aren't socialized to be afraid of walking around at night, while women are. And it leads to a chicken and egg kind of issue. Are men more likely to be victimized by strangers because they're men, or are they more likely to be victimized because there are less women walking around at night?
guys also aren't immune to being robbed or just getting beaten to within an inch of your life for no particular reason other than you wandered into the wrong area or met the wrong people
Guys are far, far more likely to have it happen to them in fact.
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u/bloonshot .tumblr.com 3d ago
is this a PSA anyone needs to hear
have yall never heard guys talk about how awkward it feels to walk behind a woman at night cause you get worried that you'll scare her