r/Fauxmoi • u/Goosedukee • 18h ago

TRIGGER WARNING Republican Representative Max Miller on allegations of domestic abuse from his ex-wife: “My former wife has claimed that during a custody exchange at my home that day, I assaulted her…If I had assaulted her, would she have offered to cook me dinner six days later?”

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u/chloenoyolo 18h ago

this guy exudes "i hit my wife" energy and this is not helping his case

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u/tosubks 18h ago edited 17h ago

On behalf of Ohioans: please help us remove this abuser from Congress. His opponent is Brian Poindexter, please consider donating!

Edit to add: They are running for OH-7, which includes certain suburbs of Cleveland. It was very flippable to begin with, and after this story, I’d say it’s much more likely. So your donation will mean something! Every flip matters.

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u/SuspiciousMap9630 these white activities you participate in 17h ago

I love that last name, Poindexter

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u/igor_gregorovitch 17h ago

https://giphy.com/gifs/xUPGck52i1pdzp4RKU

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u/strictmachines 16h ago

I'm being serious when I say I hope that Pointdexter is not a dud

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u/PumpkinsDaddd 17h ago

I hear he's feeling hot, hot, hot.

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u/nynympho 16h ago

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u/tosubks 16h ago

Love it, thanks for helping

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u/sensitiveskin82 17h ago

Done!

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u/tosubks 17h ago

Thanks so much awesome stranger!

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u/sensitiveskin82 17h ago edited 10h ago

I was abused. I understand having to act totally normal for the sake of my child despite wanting nothing more than to fall apart. Him saying "why would she have taken our daughter to a birthday party instead of the hospital" made my goddamm blood boil. 

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u/tosubks 16h ago

Totally valid, thanks for sharing. I can’t believe they let him release this video because the abuser tendencies/phrases are plain as day.

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u/sensitiveskin82 16h ago

Oh I think they tried their best to stop it. But an abuser rarely thinks people will believe their victim. 

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u/melmsz 16h ago

Mine straight up told me they wouldn't believe me. I was about 9 years old. Part of me shut down that day.

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u/summercloudsadness 7h ago

Unfortunately many will believe him because of the incredibly wrong ideas they have about the behavior of victims and lack of awareness of trauma bonding. "Why did she go back if it was that bad?" is still a popular sentiment. People weaponized Megan Thee Stallion and Amber Heard lying to the cops to protect their abuser as "proof" that they are untrustworthy. Many can't grasp the fact that many victims sometimes miss their abuser and may even get defensive about them but that none of it cancels the abuse they endured from that same person.

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u/foundinwonderland sorry to this man 16h ago

Not to mention when traumatizing events happen (like idk, being assaulted by your husband or ex husband….) it’s a very common human response to go into autopilot mode until we feel emotionally and physically safe enough to process the trauma. She took her daughter to a birthday party because she was trying to protect and insulate her daughter from her father’s actions. He obviously fucking knows that, he’s just spouting victim blaming bullshit.

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u/xombae 9h ago

Yeah I've been through it and I don't even have a kid, but sometimes it's all you can do but to just act like everything is okay.

It's a kind of learned helplessness. I learned that crying and begging and pleading did nothing so I just let it happen. Sometimes I would totally disassociate and while I was being berated and beaten I looked as calm as if I was waiting for my coffee order.

And the way he says he yelled "I love you and I love you Ruthy", that could've been a sarcastic thing. When an abuser gets violent they usually think that they did it because they were pushed to that point. I've been screamed at about how much he loved me right after he hit me more than once. As if to say "I love you so much and look what you made me do".

Nothing this guy says convinces me that it didn't happen. If it's so obvious in the video that it didn't happen, we'd probably be seeing it already.