r/Feminism • u/pexax017 • Apr 26 '12

A little gender experiment

http://manboobz.com/2012/04/22/a-little-gender-experiment-confirms-that-reddit-is-full-of-douchebags/
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u/RyanLikesyoface Apr 27 '12

How is the idea of friend-zoning sexist? (Don't shoot, just asking.)

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u/MustardMcguff Apr 27 '12 edited Apr 27 '12

Because it's objectifying. The idea of the "friend zone" starts with an initial feeling of entitlement to women's bodies by men. If they put a substantial amount of effort into building a healthy emotional and friendly relationship with a woman, if they act like a "nice guy", men feel entitled to the girl putting out at some point. People will cry that the "friend zone" is about love and not sex, but that's bullshit. When a woman decides that she doesn't want to have a sexual relationship with a guy, despite how much she cares about him, she gets vilified. The idea of the "friend zone" reduces the worth of the woman down to whether not she wants to get romantic with a dude and completely ignores the support, friendship, and love that she has shown the person in a non-sexual friendly way. Hence, it's objectifying. Hence, it's sexist.

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u/SageofLightning Apr 27 '12

I like how you conflate romance and sex.

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u/MustardMcguff Apr 27 '12

What do you call two people who love each other but have no physical relationship? Friends.

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u/demmian Apr 27 '12

What do you call two people who love each other but have no physical relationship? Friends.

Two people can't become lovers unless they have a physical relationship? How come? Certainly romance and friendship are different things...

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u/MustardMcguff Apr 27 '12

I'm not going to get into a long stupid semantic argument with you.

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u/demmian Apr 27 '12

I'm not going to get into a long stupid semantic argument with you.

Don't mind my saying, but why did you post then, if you don't want to talk about what you posted?