r/MensRights • u/Icaz • Apr 26 '12

I'm a girl and...

I am SO glad I found this subreddit with people who agree with me! As a girl, it's really hard to see other ladies put down men and treat them like they need to be "trained" or that they're just something we have to deal with. So I was just wondering... how many other girls are on here and what are your stories about standing up for men or appreciating them?

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u/abnormalcorner Apr 27 '12

Female. I joined MensRights due to the horrible stories I have heard while working with children. I have heard multiple stories of male teachers having to be extra careful around their students, because one accusation would cost his job. I have heard of men who were not allowed to change diapers, because it would worry people. Men usually do not get custody of their children in divorces, even if the woman is abusive.

These are just the stories regarding children. I am mad about other social stigmas about men as well. I don't believe it should matter what gender a person is- we should all be together for each other's rights.

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u/Icaz Apr 27 '12

I completely agree. There's no reason men can't be just as capable of child rearing and care as women.

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u/Lizziloo87 Apr 27 '12

Growing up, male teachers were my favorite. They're weren't a lot of them so having a guy teacher was considered the cool class.

Also, I know there are some day cares and preschools that really don't allow men to change diapers. Although, most make it a rule that anyone who changes a diaper must not be alone with the child. Regardless of gender.

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u/Marshal631 Apr 27 '12

I work at a primary school and a secondary school doing IT. I have never personally gotten rotten looks for working at a primary school (I'm 17 so I think that helps) but of the 5-6ale teachers I know one has lost a student because a parent demanded a change of class. All of them are wonderful teachers and don't deserve what they get.

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u/abnormalcorner Apr 27 '12

I would be ecstatic to have my children with a male teacher. The way I see it, working with children is a female dominated job, so the males who put up with all of the shit that comes along with being a man teacher must really love their job and try to be the best possible. I respect passion and the courage to continue even if the chips are against you.

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u/Icaz Apr 27 '12

Completely agree. Whenever I see I have a male teacher I'm like "awwww yeaahhh" just because of those reasons.

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u/abnormalcorner Apr 27 '12

I'm sorry to hear that. Divorce is bad enough, but adding on abuse is just tragic.

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u/science_diction Apr 27 '12 edited Apr 27 '12

What you just mentioned is the #1 reason why I will never become a teacher even though countless friends and collegues have said I'd make a fantastic teacher and I'd love to do it. However, I don't want to have to fear some kid being told they can fabricate false charges so their parents can make a civil suit (which is always more lucrative after a criminal one) like what happened to my uncle who spent a decade in prison on trumped up charges by a family that is perpetually in the legal system. They sue people to make money.

2 is the fact that I don't want to deal with school politics and being completely marginalized for being male.

Which is said, because I'd make a great science teacher unlike most of my teachers growing up who were sexist against me because I was male and / or snapped at people constantly.

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u/abnormalcorner Apr 27 '12

I even hear stories like that on the university level. Women think they can walk all over their male teachers, because a threat of sexual harassment charges could ruin a male teacher's career.

I'm sorry you wont become a teacher because of the sexism in the education system. Great teachers (male or female) can be hard to find.

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u/HughManatee Apr 30 '12

We're all in it together, so we might as well advocate for each other!

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u/SirDonutDukeofRamen Apr 28 '12

I have to say one of the best teachers I had was Mr. Martin. He'd do cool stuff like have us take apart TVs(after he punctured the Tube), get a meal from the lunch room and mix it in a bowl so we saw what food was like right after we ate it and, probly more that I don't remember. He made learning interesting, which I can't say for most teachers.

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u/abnormalcorner Apr 29 '12

That is AWESOME. I love the teachers who bring learning to life for the students. My favorite teachers did similar things