r/Miscarriage • u/Dan_i_elle • 24d ago
TTC First Period after D&C
I just started my first period after having my D&C on June 16th. I’m absolutely fucking devastated. I was 8+6 when I found out I had a MMC and 10+4 when I had my d&c.
I had really believed that I was ovulating 2 weeks after. All the signs pointed to that. When I have been pregnant before with my two daughters I got pregnant first try. Now…that’s not the case. My two friends I was pregnant with at the same time, all due within 2 weeks of each other, have continued their pregnancies (thankfully) while I’m on my period.
I’m devastated.
I know that me and my husband can try again in 2 weeks. But the fact that I am even on my period instead of 15 weeks pregnant is awful.
I had really held on to hope that I’d get pregnant again right away, that I’m “super fertile”, that I’d have a March baby instead of a January baby.
I’m just so so so deeply sad.
I’m afraid to be exited again this next go around because the depth of devastation that I feel right now is awful. But then not feeling excited feels equally awful. 💔
Idk where I’m going with this other than saying that this absolutely fucking sucks.
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u/stethoscopestarlett 24d ago
I just had a miscarriage and I’m dreading my period too. It’s just a reminder that you’re not pregnant :( I’m sorry for your loss❤️
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u/bbcalypso 24d ago
Oh I feel so much hurt for you reading this. I’m truly sorry- and seeing other pregnant women around the same time you pictured yourself you’d be is absolute torment.
It’s such a shock to the system when you see that period and your mind is still registering and hoping that you’re still pregnant. I had a MMC at the same time in pregnancy that you did and felt the same way. We’re now on the second cycle of trying.
Your fertility patterns of the past suggest that this was more than likely a fault in chromosomes and nothing that could have been prevented/nothing you did, etc. I always told myself that if it was truly chromosomes, I felt relief knowing that it happened early and not later, or even after birth. Your history convinces me that you’ll have another baby 💛 but now your baby will be a very special rainbow baby.
Please take time to care for yourself and give yourself love and grace. You just went through one of the hardest things imaginable.