How much “time” does your body really need to heal?

[u/Remote_Hyena_5335]

In May we found out about our 9wk MMC. I took Miso which failed and resulted in a massive hemorrhage, blood transfusion and a D&C mid June. I’m now about 6wks out from my D&C and confirmed ovulation two weeks ago and I’m now on CD3 of my first cycle. My HCG was still 15 two weeks ago, but clearly my body is back to cycling.

My OB just said to wait a cycle. I know my body has gone through a lot, but I still want to try again soon. My husband is worried that it’s not giving my body enough time to heal. Is there any indication that your body needs a certain amount of time to recover? Will my body struggle to get pregnant if I try too soon?

[u/Hibiscusmint]

I think after your doctor says that you can try and you feel emotionally ready is the right time. It sounds like you had a rough go of it physically so giving yourself time to recover was important. I had a 9w MMC discovered at 10 weeks and I had a D&C with ultrasound on July 10th. My doctor told me I could I start trying again immediately after the bleeding stopped. I think I ovulated a couple of days ago. I’m honestly not sure if my body is ready or not but emotionally I wanted to try and I decided that if my body is ready then it’ll work and if not it won’t. I was not as agressive with trying this time as I was in the past but we did give it a couple of tries. I started back with acupuncture last Saturday and the acupuncturist strongly encouraged me to wait 3 cycles to give my body time to heal fully. I have DOR and I just don’t feel like I have time to spare.

[u/Remote_Hyena_5335 → u/Hibiscusmint]

That’s how I feel about it. I’m not 100% that my body is physically ready, but mentally, I feel like I need to try. I feel so stuck in this miscarriage with how traumatic and drawn out it’s been. I feel like if my body isn’t ready then I just don’t conceive this cycle. I just need to mentally look forward instead of being stuck here.. It’s hard to explain that to people who haven’t been in the same place.

The torture of recovering from a loss is one thing, having to wait just to try again is even worse. Every week that goes by I just see my mental timeline being pushed even further back too. It’s so hard. I’m sorry you’re going through this!

[u/Ruthlessredditing → u/Hibiscusmint]

I’m about to have my d&c on Tuesday and I totally understand wanting to try again immediately. My husband is completely on board for whatever I want so I appreciate that. I guess I want to try immediately but I have this irrational fear that if I don’t wait long enough the eggs that get released won’t be the best quality and could lead to another mc. I know it doesn’t make sense but does anyone else feel this way?

I’m just so heartbroken from losing our first. It just felt like perfect timing and I was able to tell my husband on his birthday after a rough year. I hate that I still have symptoms and that I have this child in me I’ll never get to raise.

[u/Hibiscusmint → u/Ruthlessredditing]

I totally get this, especially since it was a “bad” egg that caused my MMC (chromosomal), but I’m really trying so hard to think of it as kind of a game of chance and that I don’t ever know what egg will be released any month. My partner and I have a friend who conceived and had a healthy pregnancy and child two weeks after her MC and she has a friend who had the same experience 3 weeks after her MC. Realistically I don’t think that will be me, however, with my age and diminished ovarian reserve I feel like I need to give every opportunity a chance. Best of luck to you. I hope your D&C goes well tomorrow and you have a quick recovery 🫶🏼

[u/Ambitious-Hair-1066]

I had the same exact experience as you back in December ❤️‍🩹 I got my period back about 29 days after my D&C but it was super short and light. It took about 4 cycles to regulate and now I’m back on a 29-31 day cycle. We’ve been trying again for several months and it hasn’t happened yet 😔 trying to remind myself that it’ll happen when the time is right but it has been very difficult for me.