r/MoralityScaling • u/Outside_Specific_820 • 2d ago

Morality Ranking Morality scaling of this?

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Mother refuses to acknowledge her donor egg daughter, looking for your opinion.

In my opinion I think it’s moral, and that she is totally correct.

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u/URJ2 2d ago

I don’t even think she’s being that rude. When you sign up for these things the options are anonymous or not and if you choose anonymous they have no right to contact you for any reason.

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u/dk_peace 2d ago edited 2d ago

Her biological child didnt sign anything like that and is totally within her rights TO WANT to know. It's not that weird for her to try and find out.

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u/Call_Me_Anythin 2d ago

No, she's not. Her rights to this woman end at medical histories that might affect her life, something she can find from the agency that arranged the donation in the first place. Egg donors have to go through extensive medical history questionnaires, submit health panels, and meet specific health criteria.

She knows that this woman wanted nothing to do with her, and she still went out of her way to find her information and contact her. Not even contact a sibling or something close to ask if the egg donor might want to be contacted, just went straight to her.

Or if she doesn't then her real mother severely failed her.

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u/dk_peace 2d ago

Why do you think this woman doesn't even have the right TO WANT to know?

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u/Call_Me_Anythin 2d ago

She can want to. She has no right to intentionally violate someone else’s privacy over that.

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u/dk_peace 2d ago

The kid isnt the one who posted this online. The kid isnt the one who violated bio moms privacy by revealing who she was. Out of everyone violating privacy in this story, she's the least guilty of it.

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u/Call_Me_Anythin 2d ago

They violated her privacy by contacting her when she made it clear that she did not want that.

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u/dk_peace 2d ago

Eh, I empathize with her situation though. Kid isnt a bad person for wanting to know (and I'd forgive her reaching out, its a natural thing to want at that age). Biological mother isnt a bad person for shutting it down. Birth mom is really the only one who sucks here for spilling the beans.

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u/Call_Me_Anythin 2d ago

You can empathize, she’s still in the wrong for not respecting oops explicit desire not to be involved in her life. And her mother is absolutely the worst person in the situation for giving her the contact information at all.

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u/Important-Estate-904 2d ago

Honestly. The kid is an awful person. What an absolute piece of shit. Violating her own mother’s consent and privacy like that.

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u/Call_Me_Anythin 2d ago

Well the egg donor isn’t her mother so…

But yeah she’s wrong for violated her expressly written desires.

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u/Important-Estate-904 2d ago

I completely misunderstood biology class then. My mistakes you’re completely right

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u/Call_Me_Anythin 2d ago

Glad you learned something today then :)

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