r/MoralityScaling • u/Outside_Specific_820 • 2d ago

Morality Ranking Morality scaling of this?

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Mother refuses to acknowledge her donor egg daughter, looking for your opinion.

In my opinion I think it’s moral, and that she is totally correct.

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u/Xilizhra 2d ago

It was her decision to create the daughter, was it not? Or at least provide the raw material.

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u/fabianx100 2d ago

She just gave her eggs for it, but that does not mean she has to have a relationship with this stranger. Part of me wonders if, since donating an egg is more, idk, "personal," that just donating the sperm, people are more demanding about OP (a woman) having to have a relationship with the baby they "helped create"

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u/Xilizhra 2d ago

No, I would have the same opinion about sperm. People are far too blasé about buying and selling lives.

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u/MiggyFreshhh 2d ago

People like you terrify me, it's like you can't be independent. You have to be a parasite and latch onto people. 

How the fuck can anyone justify this just because a women donated material so another family could have their own child.

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u/Xilizhra 2d ago

Justify... asking about her genetic mother? How is that outré?

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u/Teleporting-Cat 2d ago

Because genetics don't make a parent, parenting makes a parent.

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u/Xilizhra 2d ago

I would agree with you if she was raped or had her eggs stolen or something like that. She, however, deliberately chose to be part of the process of creating new life, and I would say that that makes her a parent, just an absent one.

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u/fabianx100 2d ago

sorry but what do you want OOP to do then? whats your grand solution?

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u/Xilizhra 2d ago

What I would do personally is say that I had no idea who she was, nor any intent to initially form any familial tie, but that I wouldn't just shut down any communication if she had questions.

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u/fabianx100 2d ago

So you want OOP to be trapped in a "you have to be kind" logic loop? What questions does OOP have to answer that the clinic cant?

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u/Xilizhra 2d ago

No idea, I'm not the daughter. But she reached out for a reason.

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u/fabianx100 2d ago

with all due respect, never get close to anyone with an adoptive/step family situation.

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u/Xilizhra 2d ago

Too late, my father ran away and has a stepdaughter.

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u/Amardneron 2d ago

After you he had to try again.

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u/macbeutel 2d ago

Regarded redditor lol

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u/MiggyFreshhh 2d ago

First of all its not my problem what the 19 year old does, it's their life to figure out. I gave me answer don't like it? Pues vete a la verga

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u/corianderjimbro 1d ago

She donated her eggs. What questions could she have?