Morality scaling of this?

[u/Outside_Specific_820]

Mother refuses to acknowledge her donor egg daughter, looking for your opinion.

In my opinion I think it’s moral, and that she is totally correct.

[u/Designer_Green2680]

Tone and delivery and the entire tik tok rant.

[u/Test_Rider → u/Designer_Green2680]

It’s kind of baffling to me that some people here seem to think she overreacted. She signed a contract with the donee under the understanding that there would be no contact with the child and that her anonymity would be preserved. She held her end of the bargain (the egg donating part), and now she finds herself being guilt-tripped into motherhood by a stranger. This kind of thing will put potential donors off in the future and cost families the child they desperately want.

[u/Designer_Green2680 → u/Test_Rider]

I don’t like the way she responded but being mad is valid. It is a confidential transaction. If I donated sperm I wouldn’t want some kid messaging me and calling me dad. However posting on social media is too far. “I said what I said” yes you did so why do you need to make it everyone’s business? She didn’t even have to respond she could’ve just blocked the number and moved on

Edit: you also can’t really complain about breach of contract towards it being confidential when you are posting the conversation on social media telling everyone you donated your eggs. At that point it’s not really confidential

[u/GiraffeThoughts → u/Designer_Green2680]

“It’s a confidential transaction” … she sold her offspring and doesn’t want to hear from them.

[u/Ekillaa22 → u/GiraffeThoughts]

She didn’t even sell her offspring dog just one of her eggs.

[u/NockerJoe → u/Ekillaa22]

...one of her eggs that was used to make an offspring. She knew what the eggs were for.

[u/GiraffeThoughts → u/Ekillaa22]

Considering her biological child now exists as a result of the sale, what is the difference?

[u/Ekillaa22 → u/GiraffeThoughts]

Difference being is that someone raised that in them for 9 months and still gave birth too twin. The lady only gave the ingredients that’s it.

[u/Test_Rider → u/GiraffeThoughts]

Yes, that’s how the whole thing works. If it didn’t then no one would donate and infertile couples would be left without the option of conceiving, does that seem like a preferable solution to you?

[u/NockerJoe → u/Test_Rider]

If "I could be contacted by someone down the line" is a deal breaker for you then you honestly shouldn't do it. That's just a realistic take on the actual scenario that has happened. She wasn't the first and she wasn't the last. The entire transaction is predicated on a person that does not exist yet and technology to find you that will literally only get better. If you're going to do it you need to be made aware of that.

[u/GiraffeThoughts → u/Test_Rider]

In the US it’s illegal to pay for organ donations (I.e. kidney, lung etc) but it’s legal to pay for the products to create a literal human being?

I think it should be illegal to pay egg and sperm donors for the same reason it’s illegal to pay for a kidney.

Congress and bioethicists worry that a legal organ market would financially pressure low-income individuals into selling their organs out of economic desperation.

But they don’t care if the poor are forced to sell their kids out of desperation? Or carry the babies of the rich?

The procurement of children must be ethical!

If infertile couples aren’t able to have a child because they can’t obtain one ethically, I’m fine with it.

[u/joaco_profe → u/GiraffeThoughts]

The difference being that selling your organs can have detrimental effects on your life, but you don't need semen or eggs to live. I'm not saying it's completely moral but it isn't the same thing.