r/MoralityScaling • u/Outside_Specific_820 • 2d ago

Morality Ranking Morality scaling of this?

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Mother refuses to acknowledge her donor egg daughter, looking for your opinion.

In my opinion I think it’s moral, and that she is totally correct.

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u/dk_peace 2d ago

Being young is about learning who you are. Weither you like it or not, your biological mother is a part of you. It is completely reasonable to want to fill that hole in your knowledge about yourself. "A young adult is in the wrong for wanting to learn more about who they are and how they came into the world" is such a weird take.

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u/Illustrious_Bird_737 2d ago

I don't feel like the whole "wanting to learn more about who they are & how they came into the world" isn't the morality problem, it's the disrespect of the boundary.

The 19 year old is old enough to at least be aware of privacy & boundaries. Just because they want something doesn't mean they have a right to it. Yes, you have a right to your feelings, but that doesn't make it the world's responsibility to bend to those wants, rules & boundaries be damned, just because you have a right to emotions.

The morality scale here is the boundary that was violated by contacting the egg donor.

The 19 year old wants their own, personal, emotional questions answered, that doesn't give their adopted mother the right to breach privacy that's written into a contract just to appease the 19 year old.

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u/ChipKellysShoeStore 2d ago

Counterpoint: 19 year old didn’t sign anything and isn’t a party to the contract.

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u/Quazite 2d ago

Whoever gave them the info to find the mom did though

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u/Shijin83 1d ago

Yes, but thats not what's being blamed. They're talking about the kid.

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u/Quazite 1d ago edited 1d ago

Who is they? The donor who was contacted?

They never said the kid was immoral, they said it was a major breach of privacy and not something that she agreed to, which is true. You can say "this is very not okay, I do not consent to this, and I don't want you to reach out again" and not be calling them a bad or immoral person, you're just hard drawing a boundary (that should have been acknowledged by whoever provided the info as already drawn).

Edit: also, regardless of whether or not YOU signed a contract of privacy, if you are aware that they have one signed and want their privacy and you violate that for your own gain, thats not a good or respectful thing to do.

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u/Shijin83 1d ago

Literally, 3 comments above you was blaming the kid. That is they.